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Givers Get

2008-06-08T15:00:00.009-07:00

When I coach with other business owners and people that have ideas I often find reluctance on their part to share those ideas with others. I think this boils down many times to believing that ideas are scarce in this world.

I happen to think that ideas are a dime a dozen. If your big idea is how to make $1,000,000 with a brand new internet program that helps people, then you should tell everyone you know about it. Unless you are willing to share your ideas and let those around you know, how will you ever get the word out?

This can be backwards thinking for many people. “What if someone steals my idea?” I hear that one quite often. I’m sure that your big idea is not the only one out there.

If it is a great idea, then do something with it. Turn it into income. I help people do this each week. You must be willing to share if you want to receive on the other end.

Aren’t the people with the most friends the ones who are the friendliest in return? This should be your new way of thinking. Give away whatever you can. For this reason I give away almost everything I do for free on our website. It is also why I train others to do what I do. I routinely field emails and calls from coaches around the country that have questions about a part of their business. If I believed in scarcity instead of abundance, I would never talk to other coaches and counselors. I am not so naive to think however that I am the only one that can help everyone in this world, or even in my own city.

As stated in The One Minute Millionaire, “give your time, your approval, your smile, your advice, your wisdom, your compliments, your sense of humor, your talent, your attention, your encouragement, your love. All these things will flow back to you in abundance.”

Justin Lukasavige is a Personal & Business Coach and owner of Lukas Coaching. Visit www.lukascoaching.com/resources.htm for a ton of free tools to help you improve your health, finances, business, career & life!

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Givers Get

2008-06-08T15:00:00.008-07:00

Who is on Your Side

2008-06-08T15:00:00.007-07:00

You cannot do it on your own. It’s as simple as that. This is why singles have it so much harder than married couples when it comes to devising a plan and getting out of debt.

Singles obviously do not have to answer to anyone, but the downside is that singles do not have to answer to anyone. Do you have someone in your life that you can share with? Even if you’re married you may need someone outside your family to share with and hold you accountable. I do that every Thursday morning with a great friend of mine.

Circle the number below each of the next 3 questions to find out where you stand. 1= Disagree Completely 5= Agree Completely

I’m willing to let down my guard with a trusted friend and reveal private thoughts, admit failures and share even the tough things.

1 2 3 4 5

I’m honest and consistent with my thoughts and words even when I have a hard truth to share with a friend.

1 2 3 4 5

I can acknowledge when someone else may be right and can even accept a friend calling my action into question, even if it is not delivered perfect.

1 2 3 4 5

The name of a person I am willing to share truth in my life is: ________________

If you cannot fill that blank in, then you have some work to do. A church is a great place to start, but you can also get closer to your neighbors and friends.

Do not make the mistake of doing life on your own. Life is far too important to go through alone. This is the very reason that those who have a professional coaching relationship or simply a great friend in their life do so well.

Justin Lukasavige is a Personal & Business Coach and owner of Lukas Coaching. Visit www.lukascoaching.com/resources.htm for a ton of free tools to help you improve your health, finances, business, career & life!

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Who is on Your Side

2008-06-08T15:00:00.006-07:00

My Life Story On The Big Screen!

2008-06-08T15:00:00.005-07:00

When the final chapter in my life's story has been written and work on the screenplay for the movie begins, someone will be faced with the difficult assignment of deciding who will play me on the big screen. It won't be an easy task because it will take an actor of the first water to capture the true essence of me.

My life has had the same assortments of successes and failures, tears, both of joy and of sorrow, grand excitement and heart-rending disappointments as everyone else in this world. I can say though, in all honesty I've never been bored a day in my life!

I guess I've been thoroughly blessed to have survived in this world as long as I have without the benefit of a burning desire for anything, leaving me slightly out of step with all the movers and shakers of this world. Does that mean that I've been without dreams and goals to achieve them? No!

Having no great desire to save the world, cure cancer or control a corporate empire has worked well for me. With only a few exceptions there's not a thing I would change if I had all this to do over again. There are enough surprises jumping out at us when we least expect it to overcome any thoughts of succumbing to boredom, which I believe is a sin!

Who then, if this epic of human survival were cast today, would I choose for that role of a lifetime? Not just anyone could carry off such an assignment. After much thought, I've narrowed the field down to just a few that could seriously portray me on the big screen.

As my younger self, would be the one I would definitely choose to play me, if for no other reason than he's the only young actor I can think of at the moment. He's obviously talented, for I've seen him in several movies, other than "Second Hand Lion," with Robert Duvall and Michael Caine. Dye his hair a little darker and he could be me in my younger years.

Al Pacino would be a favorable choice for an older me. He lives the character and in just a few scenes you forget that he's Al Pacino. That's the kind of man who can capture the real Bob Alexander. I can see Al now, smiling as he says, "Say hello to my little friend!" Oops! Wrong movie!

Unfortunately I don't believe this part is crying out for Mr. Pacino. This is the role every actor dreams about, but he seems a little too serious accurately portray me. I've never found a serious situation that couldn't be improved by a little humor. Some believe this to be a flaw in my character but I believe it to be genetic and it's not my fault! I was born with this affliction.

I think the ability to find humor in the most dire of situation has been passed down to my brother also. A case in point is a dilemma my family encountered when my mother passed away.

As befitting a good country song, it was raining on the day before her funeral and the weather outlook for the next day was more of the same. In addition, when my brothers and I were seated in the funeral home with the director, we found that the day was already booked. There were four interments already scheduled, but the gentleman said that he could squeeze us in at 8:00 a.m. We all determined that this was much too early for such an event.

My brother broke the silence that ensued with, "What's the chance there will be a cancellation tomorrow?" The funeral director looked surprised and in a shocked voice replied, "I don't think I've ever been asked that before." We all had a good laugh that broke, for the moment, the somber mood that had been cast over the room. Mother would have been proud!

When it comes down to deciding just who will be the lucky fellow to play me, I'll have to go with George Clooney. Not only is he a good actor, he has a wit about him that is reminiscent of my humor. Put that together with his good looks, and he would be the perfect choice to play the role of Bob Alexander.

Bob Alexander is well experienced in outdoor cooking, fishing and leisure living. Bob is also the author and owner of this article. Visit his sites at:

http://www.homeandgardenbob.com

http://www.redfishbob.com

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How Adversity can be overcome by inner wisdom

2008-06-08T15:00:00.004-07:00

First we will see what the meaning of Adversity is. Adversity means hard times going through his or her life.Adversity seems to be a brawny and tough word if we allow it to be superior to us. Unluckily it comes in ones life and the effect of it is such that, the person is psychologically disabled to move further in his life.

Our inner perception guides us what has to be done but we are so much in tension that we are not able to perceive it. In this case if we use the god given inner wisdom, we can clear the all dirt and bring the rays of happiness in our life. But before coming out of adversity through inner wisdom we have to know the meaning of inner wisdom first.

Inner wisdom also known as “intuition” at times forces you to think, act, or speak. It acts as a lashing force which motivates, inspires, initiates thoughts, measures, and interactions. Inner wisdom also helps to achieve greatness in life guided by a Devine Spiritual Force. From the above discussion we can know that Adversity is just one of the objectives of inner wisdom.

After knowing inner wisdom now you can know when last time you have used it. You may have used it but you didn’t know at that time. Whenever you need it the inner wisdom is there for your service. All you have to do is to perceive it. What internal sound is telling you? When Adversity is witnessed in your life, what action you will take, will you mount over it? Avoid it, go through adverse phase, or get away from it? In this situation you have to listen to your inner wisdom, which is filled with inner knowledge which in turn helps to find clearness of the moment. You will take correct course act to overcome the adverse situation. This clear mental picture rationalizes you and gives you the ability to think wisely.

Now we will see how to enhance the intuition. Focus plays a vital role in enhancing the intuition. For this you have to do 10-15 minutes meditation every day. There are many ways by which we can meditate I will tell you one method in briefly. Take a candle light it and keep it at a distance of four to five feet’s from you. Keep such that the candle’s flame is at the height of your eyes. Then close the doors and windows of the room and start looking at the candle. Even if your eyes flow doesn’t matter, practice this for 10-15 minutes on daily basis. This will help you greatly to improve your inner wisdom. This meditation will help us to define and listen what the inner wisdom is telling us.

After improving our inner wisdom by meditation we will be able to face adversity with more ease. We will learn to prevent and contend Adversity instead of getting panicked by it. It will help us to move beyond it effectively when it occurs. We will see opportunity in such situation and move forward in life.

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Have You Considered a Chemical Face Peel as an Answer to Your Wrinkles?

2008-06-08T15:00:00.003-07:00

The rate at which our skin ages largely depends on how we care for our skin in our genes. The most common neglect is sun damage and smoking which can result in fine lines and wrinkles appearing earlier. A chemical face peel may be a treatment you might want to think about, even to help with acne and uneven skin tone. There are many face peel products on the market and the range is ever expanding. Face peel products range from those containing mild AHA acids to a deep chemical peel that can take several weeks to heal. The end result is that the peel reveals new fresher skin and wrinkles and blemishes are diminished meaning a new more youthful look.

Prior to considering a face peel a consultation with the dermatologist or qualified individual should to take place to determine that there will be no lasting adverse side effects. Chemical peels come with varying amounts of risk. Chemical peel is normally a safe procedure when it is performed by a qualified, experienced plastic surgeon...However, some unpredictability and risks such as infection and scarring, while infrequent, are possible.

These are some examples of chemical face peels that are available today:

AHA Peels: The milder face peel products usually contain the more naturally occuring AHA's. AHA's should be by a qualified dermatologists and require no anaesthetic although one might experience some redness and mild irritation. There are milder versions that can be applied at home after a 'patch' test has been done. AHA's are effective in treating fine lines, blotchy skin tone, acne and sun damage. The peel may need to be repeted periodically for maximum results.

Trichloroacetic Acid (TCA): Peels containing TCA's are deemed more suitable for those with pigmented skin who want a stronger peel as it does not bleach the skin and is more suitable for pigmentation problems. It is a more potent peel but an anaesthetic might not be required as the peel has a mild numbing effect on the skin. Contact with the sun is imperative for some months after the peel to prevent damage to the fresh layers of skin.

The Phenol Chemical Face Peel: Is made up of croton oil. This face peel product acts deeper and must be applied by a qualified cosmetic surgeon as it usually does require an anaesthetic or heavy sedation because it is painful. The outcome is the smoothing of deep wrinkels, it can permanently lighten the skin as the skin will more than likely be unable to produce pigment after the peel hence it is not recommended for darker skinned individuals. It will get rid of freckles and precancerous growths. One treatment is all that is required due to it's strengh. If you suffer from a history of heart disease then you must make your surgeon aware of this pror to discussing this treatment.

One thing that must not be underestimated after having a phenol chemical face peel is the importance of skin care. The gentler the better and one must keep out of the sun to prevent damage at this stage. After this treatment sun care is of utmost importance, even when the skin is fully healed.

The three chemical face peels above are the most commonly available but there are others available that the practitioner will be able to advise you of.

If you would like to read some more anti aging secrets then visit www.antiagingtipsonline.com or if you are considering a trip to a medical day spa for a treatment the visit Spas4Health for more information on spas in your area.

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Stop Looking Back!

2008-06-08T15:00:00.002-07:00

Getting ready to drive off in my wife's car the other day, I checked and adjusted her mirrors. I first adjusted the side mirrors and then finally the rearview mirror. And suddenly, it dawned on me. Ever notice how much smaller the rearview mirror is than the windshield?

Of course I realize that this is not some startling new discovery. Anyone who drives knows that the rearview mirror is much, much smaller than the windshield for very obvious reasons.

But as I sat there before I drove off, I wondered just how fast and how far you could drive if the windshield was the size of the rearview mirror, and the rearview mirror was the size of the windshield!

No, I am not losing my mind with a wild brainstorm idea for General Motors! I am trying to make a point. We all know that the reason the windshield is so much bigger is because the road ahead of us is so much more important than the road behind us. We need to see and focus clearly on as much of the road ahead as we can.

This is so true in living life. Where we are going in life is so much more important than where we have been. Yet far too many people are living in their past. They live day to day staring into their rearview mirror with all their focus and attention on what happened to them in the past, instead of looking forward to the future.

People are living with regrets, guilt, shame, disappointments and discouragements resulting from things in their past. Many people go around feeling sorry for themselves. Some are living with anger or seek revenge from being hurt. Regardless of what has happened or how they feel, they all have one thing in common: they are all starring into their rearview mirror.

What is there in your past that you can change? Absolutely nothing. What great profit is it to spend your time and mental focus on the past? There is none. Even if there were some really fantastic things in your past, they are all still in the past.

Some people are still trying to live back in the "good ol' days," back when their lives were so much better. They think about it and relive a happier time without all the stress or hardships that they face now. Doing that is still looking into the rearview mirror!

Yes, there are disappointments in life, some small, and some not so small. But if you are going to move forward with your life, you have to put your eyes on what is ahead. As you drive your vehicle, you not only see the road immediately in front of you, but you can also see a good ways up the road.

So why not do that with your life? Stop dwelling on the past. Stop reliving it over and over and over. Stop talking about it. It is over with and there is nothing that can change what has happened in the past.

Of course, there may be circumstances that you have to deal with as the result of something that has happened in the past. Take care of those, but then be determined to move forward. The Bible talks about forgetting those things which are in the past. That means that it is a freewill choice to let go of the past. We can choose to look forward or to look backward.

When you are driving your vehicle, you can't get very far without running into something if you're constantly looking into the rearview mirror. I don't recommend trying this! And neither do I recommend doing it with life either.

If you want to move forward with your life, then stop looking back, ask for God's help, and keep looking and moving forward.

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Michael has a free newsletter called, THE PEP LETTER, at http://www.christianinspirationalgifts.com/pepletter.html

Michael is a husband, father, minister, author, and broadcaster. He has been the voice on numerous productions over the years.

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Advice for Nearsighted Optimists

2008-06-08T15:00:00.001-07:00

I was born optimistic. But it wasn't unfounded optimism: Rather it was optimism based on seeing better ways to proceed.

From the earliest age, I could see easy ways to improve on what the adults around me were ignoring. Take choosing a driving route, for instance. Most people simply went the same way they had gone before whenever the mood struck them.

Plan your route with a map and pick a time when others are not driving, and the same trip can go faster and easier. Once you see the real conditions, be flexible. Don't sit stalled on the freeway when the access road is wide open.

More importantly, I noticed that when you do things effortlessly, your quality of life improves as well. But there was a problem with my optimism; it was limited to improvements that I could effortlessly see.

There was an irony about my ability to see better ways to accomplish things: I actually couldn't see much unless something was a few inches from my face. I was legally blind but no one noticed it.

Here's a funny example: Whenever our family visited my great grandparents, I wouldn't put their binoculars down. I wanted to use those wonderfully adjustable lenses nonstop because I could see at a distance so much better with them.

I was, however, puzzled, by the way that others always had to readjust the binoculars so much after I used them. What could that be about? Here was an early lesson that something else is going on worth investigating if others take a different approach.

In fourth grade a teacher observed me squinting close to the blackboard between assignments and taking notes like mad. She sent me to the nurse's office where I failed to be able to identify the big E at the top of the eye chart.

A quick trip to the optometrist soon left me sporting glasses that seemed a mile thick and with distance vision that still wasn't very good. I preferred binoculars.

My mother promised me, based on her sunny optimism, that I wouldn't have to wear those awful glasses all of my life. She was sure that something better would come along.

She taught me an important lesson about the value of optimism a year later when she determinedly arranged for me to become one of the first children to wear contact lenses. Each time I put on my contact lenses for the next 50 years, I reexperienced the miracle and joy of being able to see clearly at a distance all the time.

That daily recognition that the right solutions could transform lives in miraculous ways led me to seek out how to help others who couldn't yet see the opportunities in front of them.

One day after about a year with contact lenses, my mom told me that someday I wouldn't have to wear the lenses any more. I couldn't figure out why she was telling me that. I loved my contact lenses! What could be better?

Of course, 50 years later with the benefits from cataract surgery, I have perfect vision without any glasses. Now, wasn't that worth the wait? My mother's optimism paid off!

Copyright 2008 Donald W. Mitchell, All Rights Reserved

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Donald Mitchell is CEO of Mitchell and Company, a strategy and financial consulting firm in Weston, MA. He is coauthor of seven books including Adventures of an Optimist, The 2,000 Percent Solution, and The Ultimate Competitive Advantage. You can find free tips for accomplishing 20 times more by registering at: www.2000percentsolution.com

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Finding the Right Materials for Kitchen Cabinets

2008-06-08T15:00:00.000-07:00

If you're looking to brighten your home, make it more modern or even give it that vintage look, changing your kitchen cabinets is a great place to start. A new kitchen cabinet set can add value to your home and completely change the atmosphere of the room. Whatever kind of kitchen cabinets you're looking for, you should know a few things about the materials from which kitchen cabinets can be made.

One of the most popular materials for wooden kitchen cabinets is maple. Maple is both durable and versatile. It can be used with many finishes because of its fine, uniform grain. Maple can be painted or stained with ease and can match a variety of kitchens. One of the only downsides of maple is that it tends to yellow in the sun, which isn't a problem if it's painted.

Rivaling maple's popularity is oak. Oak is quite durable, but it isn't as versatile as maple because of its distinct look. The distinctive grain of oak lends itself to old-fashioned, country-styled kitchens, but it doesn't match well in modern kitchen styles. Stains and varnishes take to oak very well and can allow its unique grain to really stand out. There are many different colors of oak since it's one of the most common trees in North America.

If you're looking for something completely different from traditional wood kitchen cabinets, try a set of metal cabinets. From stainless steel to copper, the variety of metals used in modern kitchen cabinets keeps growing. Stainless steel may seem somewhat institutional, but with the right accents it can help create a cozy kitchen. Burnished copper and brushed nickel also are two popular finishes on metal cabinets. Metal cabinets can be noisy, so look at all the materials used in the cabinets. Manufacturers often lay the metal over other, less noisy materials such as plywood or pressboard. This takes the noise level down, but can seriously affect durability. When possible, try to avoid using pressboard or fiberboard due to the affects that moisture can have on it. Cabinets will be more or less durable depending on the materials used underneath the metal. Spend a little extra to be sure your cabinets will last a long time.

Melamine cabinets are another option. Melamine is a coating that goes over a base material and provides protection against scratches, stains and flames. It can come in a retro-style, plain white or faux wood grain. The durability of melamine also is dependent on the quality of the base material. The coating doesn't allow moisture into the base material, but if the coating is cracked, melamine cabinets can sag quickly. Another drawback to Melanie is the fact that if it cracks, it is hard to patch without being replaced completely. Otherwise, they are an aesthetically pleasing and relatively durable choice for a kitchen cabinet set.

Whatever the choice of material, a new set of kitchen cabinets will make your entire house look and feel different. The right cabinet set will make your kitchen feel more like home or more like a professional kitchen, depending on your preference. Take the time to check out each material and style available before committing to a new set of kitchen cabinets. The right choice will last for years, or until you're ready to change the atmosphere again.

I have been remodeling house for 15 years, and I have the secret to getting high qualitykitchen cabinets at an affordable price. Interested in finding out my secret? Follow these links to find out the secret to getting kitchen cabinets at 30-40% below retail prices

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What Is The Love Charger?

2008-06-05T15:00:00.012-07:00

What Is The Love Charger?

The Love Charger - It sounds like some sort of high tech way to improve your love life. Actually, it is a device that you slip under your pillow that allows you not only to have a good night of sleep, but also to re-energize you.

The Love Charger was invented by Cory Herter. Since being introduced to the public five years ago, it has taken the world by storm. Many people are reporting that this little device not only allows them to fall asleep quickly and easily without pills, but also allows them to wake up feeling more refreshed and alive than ever.

Getting a Head-Start with the Love Charger

If you have a fuzzy brain in the morning, like most of us do, the Love Charger will actually help you wake up with a clearer vision. This can get your day off to a good start and prepare you for positive energy filled day. The Love Charger actually restores energy back into your body that you lose when you are sleeping.

Many in the medical community believe that most diseases are caused by a loss of energy. Each time we fall asleep, we lose energy. We have often been told that sleeping rejuvenates us for the day and we gain energy. While our bodies do replenish some energy when we are sleeping, it does not all return. We lose about 10 percent each night.

As we get older, we tend to get slower and more sluggish. Our memory is not in top form. We tend to have fuzzy thoughts and trouble concentrating. When we use a device like the Love Charger, we can actually wake up not only feeling refreshed, but also with renewed energy. And not just any energy, either; but positive energy.

Getting a Good Night’s Sleep with the Love Charger

We have all heard about positive and negative energy. Have you ever awakened from a bad dream? You experienced negative energy throughout the night and will not wake up feeling rested. On the contrary, you are most likely irritable.

The Love Charger can change all of that. It can not only allow you to get a restful night of sleep, but also wake up feeling refreshed and fully charged. Best of all, it rejuvenates your positive energy levels.

You do not have to take pills that can be addictive and even harmful to you physically. You do not have to alter your lifestyle. You only need this small device that goes under your pillow that lulls you into a blissful sleep and allows you to wake up feeling fully charged, full of positive energy and ready to take on a fresh new day. Not only will you enjoy having the love charger for yourself, but you will probably also enjoy using it for other members of your family. Everyone can benefit from this energy replenishing device.

Even teenagers and college students are benefiting from the Love Charger. They report having better concentration on tests. And, by the way, your mate will also love the love charger. Because more energy can be used in more ways than one!

If you are looking for the love charger to rejuvenate yourself and activate new sensations such as heightened abilities, rebalancing the physical and mental emotions allowing for unlimited amounts of energy to be unlocked, and to know more about Laws Of Vibrational Energy , LOVE

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Cory Herter & The Love Tester

2008-06-05T15:00:00.011-07:00

Over the past few decades, scientists have been better able to understand positive and negative energy and how it impacts our lives. Cory Herter took it one step further and came up with a plan to recharge our energy while we sleep. The Love Tester, a simple device Cory invented, has been stirring up a revolution all over the world for the past five years.

The Energy Robbing Effects of Stress

Most people report having a problem sleeping at one time or another. The reason for not sleeping properly is usually related to stress. As a matter of fact, when you think about it, many physical ailments are related to stress. And what happens when you are stressed? Your body loses even more energy.

When was the last time you went through a stressful situation? Chances are that when the situation was over, your whole body felt drained. You were tired and wanted to sleep. You may even have fell into a depression. This is because your body lost a tremendous amount of energy due to the stress.

Your body loses energy every day. We often think that our bodies recharge when we sleep, but this is not true. It was Cory Herter who proved the theory that during sleep, our bodies only regain a portion of energy. And depending upon how we are sleeping and what sort of day we had, the energy we are giving back to our bodies can be either positive or negative.

The Re-Energizing Effects of the Love Charger

Herter invented a simple device that goes under the pillow called the Love Charger. When you sleep on this very slightly vibrating device, you not only sleep better, but you also retain energy. Instead of losing 10 percent of your energy every night, which eventually leads to old age and death, you are gaining energy. And it is positive energy as well.

In the past five years, the Love Charger has helped thousands of individuals not only get a better night of sleep but also improve their memory and allow them to have more energy during the day. Their minds are also focused during the day and even young people are reporting that their grades have improved in school.

The Love Charger is not an addictive sleep aid. Nor is it anything that disrupts your life. It is simply a way to store positive energy in our bodies while we sleep. And retain energy in our bodies during the day.

Since many in the medical community believe that the loss of energy is what makes us grow old, confused and eventually causes us to die, the Love Charger makes perfect sense. Some even feel that certain diseases are caused by loss of energy as our bodies fight to store energy to give us life. The Love Charger is the first invention of this kind that can actually give you a better sleep at night and continue to work during the day to restore positive energy into your body. And we have Cory Herter to thank for this new invention that can help us in so many ways.

If you are looking for corey herters love charger to rejuvenate yourself and activate new sensations such as heightened abilities, rebalancing the physical and mental emotions allowing for unlimited amounts of energy to be unlocked, and to know more about Laws Of Vibrational Energy , LOVE

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2008-06-05T15:00:00.010-07:00

Emotional Self-Care for Frazzled Mothers

2008-06-05T15:00:00.009-07:00

A Husband's Support

When I was first married, I thought my husband would be my emotional support. I assumed he'd be there for me since that was what marriage was all about. I was sorely disappointed to find out I'd been in fantasyland. I needed to teach him how to support me and eventually, after many years of badgering, I taught him a few things. But mostly I learned something very important myself: to accept his personal limitations. I began to realize that I didn't have to get all my needs met through my husband.

Others Shortcomings

Here's my first tip: Recognize when you need emotional support but don't try to get it from those who aren't able to give it to you. Don't expect your husband or friends to always be there for you. It's unrealistic and puts unnecessary strain on your relationships. Sometimes people we are closest to don't have the distance necessary to deal well with our pain.

Techniques to Use By Yourself

Through the years I've discovered ways to have the emotional freedom I need. The following are some of the techniques I use to care for myself when my pain is overwhelming and those closest to me can't help. I like these techniques because they are ways I can take care of myself all by myself. That is why I am sharing them with you. They cost nothing and they give you the ability to care for yourself in your own time.

EFT

EFT - The "Emotional Freedom Techniques" are based on the science of Chinese medicine and energy meridians. If you tap on certain energy points regularly, you will be able to unload your emotional baggage. You may need outside support for the tougher issues but what I like about these techniques is that they are something you can use on yourself, by yourself, for yourself and you can get the manual for free. To find out more, go to my website: http://www.MothersHaveNeedsToo.com/emotionalfreedomeft.htm

Writing

Writing Your Resentments & Fears - There's a writing technique I learned in Al-Anon that helps clarify and discharge emotions. You start with your resentment and then make a list of fears and address it all to your Higher Power. For example, start with a sentence in this format:

"Dear_______, I have a resentment toward _____________ for __________ because I have a fear of______________because I have a fear of__________ because I have a fear of _______________..." Continue writing down fear after fear until you get to the bottom of your fears.

Example:

"Dear G-d,

I have a resentment toward the Superintendent for closing our school because I have a fear of my daughter getting radiated by the cell tower at our new school because I have a fear of leading this PTA meeting tonight because I have a fear of being honest about my feelings because I have a fear of people attacking me because I have a fear my feelings aren't right because I have a fear of not being able to stand up for myself because I have a fear of..."

Continue writing each fear you discover beneath the previous fear until you feel complete. At the end, you can do one of two things, either:

1. write: "I am now entirely ready to have these fears and resentments removed. Please remove them now, thanks. I pray only for the knowledge/experience of Your will for me and the power to carry that out." Sign it and then rip it up and throw it away. Or:

2. You can begin writing from the voice of your Higher Power answering you.

If you want more instructions in the above techniques, I'm available for private instruction through email, phone or in the office.

Psychotherapy/Counseling

There are times when these techniques don't help and you are still full of pain. This is when it's a good time to check in with a therapist. A therapist is the perfect person to use when you have the need to freely explore your emotions in a safe environment with the support of another person. I offer a free 20 minute phone consult or one free email advising session. Email Advising is a convenient, cost-effective way to get help on your own schedule.

Emotional Self-Care

If you want more emotional support from others and can't seem to get it, make sure you do get it. There are many more techniques than those I've outlined above. There's always a way to care for yourself emotionally.

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5 Way to Enjoy Your Summer At Home

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Copyright (c) 2008 Karin Marcus

"Summertime and the livin' is easy...." It's time to kick back, relax, have fun and enjoy the simple pleasures of summer. But because of gas prices and other expenses, many people have decided not to travel this year. This is an old but a very new concept to many. There are a multitude of local programs and summer camps for the kids, but what can all the adult children do to make this summer special? How can you alter your daily routine and turn your home into a restful vacation place? Here are five simple guidelines:

1. Enjoy as many meals as possible outside: Instead of rushing through your meals mindlessly, savor the time to enjoy the summer air and greenery. Sit with your morning cup of coffee on your porch or in your backyard. Listen to the birds and feel the morning sun warming the day. At lunch time to, step out of the box, sit in an outdoor café or take a bagged lunch to the park. For dinner, cook outside, set the table on your deck, or grab a blanket a go for a picnic. You will find that once you have the necessary supplies in place, any of these possibilities can be effortless. Imagine how different your life would feel if you had just one meal outside every day?

2. Schedule a play day: Set aside one day a week, or at the very least an afternoon or morning, when you don't do any errands, you don't turn on the computer or do chores, and you just have fun. Perhaps something you used to do when you were younger and just haven't found the time for lately. It could be hiking or biking, playing badminton or croquet. It could be doing something creative with watercolors or photography. The only pre requisite is that you are doing it because you want to and it makes you happy. Make a list of all the activities you enjoy. Post it somewhere visible to you everyday, and have fun checking the items off one by one or several times each.

3. Create a summer reading list: Those wonderful long summer novels don't need to be read on the beach or in a vacation home. Create a cozy inviting reading space indoors or out and visit it regularly. All the television programs are repeats so turn the darn box off and cuddle up with a good book.

4. Explore your own state or region: Often there are museums, historic places, amusement parks, national parks, gardens, and arboretums in your local area that you have never visited. Just google "Things to do in (your state), "and have fun exploring.

5. Post your summer hours: To assure that this summer at home just doesn't drift by unattended, you really have to firmly establish times each day an each week that are devoted to renewal, fun, and relaxation. Create space in your daily calendar for each of the activities listed above and block off those times in permanent read ink. Let your family, co-workers and friends know that these are your priorities for the upcoming months. Who knows you might start a trend!

Have a wonderful summer finding adventure, fun, and quiet in your own backyard!

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Do You Have The Love Vibration?

2008-06-05T15:00:00.007-07:00

The love vibration is a device that you can put under your pillow and it restores positive and loving energy while you sleep.

Everybody wants more energy. Most of us complain that we experience a lack of energy throughout the day. This is because we are drained throughout the night, especially if we have trouble sleeping or if we have bad dreams. Most people are under the impression that they are fully rejuvenated after sleeping all night. This is not true, however. We still end up losing energy when we sleep. It is estimated that we lose about 10 percent of energy when we sleep each night.

If we use a love charm like the Love Charger, it gently vibrates under us as we sleep. We do not feel these vibrations but they do end up lulling us to a peaceful sleep. Not just ordinary sleep, but a rejuvenating sleep.

When you wake up in the morning, are your thoughts fuzzy? Most people experience this feeling. It takes a while for you to get your thoughts together because you have, essentially, been robbed of some brain energy during the night. As this continues throughout your life, you will find that you remember less and less. Many doctors believe that most diseases are caused by memory loss. Our body simply forgets how to repair itself. This is due to the energy that we lose as we sleep.

By using a device like the love charger, you can not only get to sleep right away without pills, which can be habit forming, but also experience positive energy as you sleep. In fact, your entire mind will be filled with positive energy, making you feel refreshed when you wake up instead of drained. Not only will you be mentally healthier, but physically healthier as well.

The Love Charger is the easiest way to fall asleep, have a peaceful sleep and also be energized with positive energy the next day. People who have used this device, invented several years ago by Cory Herter, have reported that their memory increases and they actually feel better. Not only are they reporting to be physically healthier, but happier and mentally healthy as well. The Love Vibration is basically the same as the Love Charger. Both are destined to create a happier you.

Medical science now recognizes a link between emotional fulfillment and physical health. People who are stressed out all of the time end up living a shorter time span than those who are happier. By using the Love Charger, you may not be guaranteed a longer life, but you are certainly guaranteed a happier and more peaceful life, which will probably lead to a physically healthier life as well.

Simply place the device under your pillow and allow the Love Charger to work its magic. In the morning, you will feel more rested and full of energy. With all of that positive energy flowing through you, you will feel ready to conquer the world. Your confidence level will be raised and you will be a happier person. No sleeping pill on earth can guarantee that!

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Do You Have The Love Vibration?

2008-06-05T15:00:00.006-07:00

The love vibration is a device that you can put under your pillow and it restores positive and loving energy while you sleep.

Everybody wants more energy. Most of us complain that we experience a lack of energy throughout the day. This is because we are drained throughout the night, especially if we have trouble sleeping or if we have bad dreams. Most people are under the impression that they are fully rejuvenated after sleeping all night. This is not true, however. We still end up losing energy when we sleep. It is estimated that we lose about 10 percent of energy when we sleep each night.

If we use a love charm like the Love Charger, it gently vibrates under us as we sleep. We do not feel these vibrations but they do end up lulling us to a peaceful sleep. Not just ordinary sleep, but a rejuvenating sleep.

When you wake up in the morning, are your thoughts fuzzy? Most people experience this feeling. It takes a while for you to get your thoughts together because you have, essentially, been robbed of some brain energy during the night. As this continues throughout your life, you will find that you remember less and less. Many doctors believe that most diseases are caused by memory loss. Our body simply forgets how to repair itself. This is due to the energy that we lose as we sleep.

By using a device like the love charger, you can not only get to sleep right away without pills, which can be habit forming, but also experience positive energy as you sleep. In fact, your entire mind will be filled with positive energy, making you feel refreshed when you wake up instead of drained. Not only will you be mentally healthier, but physically healthier as well.

The Love Charger is the easiest way to fall asleep, have a peaceful sleep and also be energized with positive energy the next day. People who have used this device, invented several years ago by Cory Herter, have reported that their memory increases and they actually feel better. Not only are they reporting to be physically healthier, but happier and mentally healthy as well. The Love Vibration is basically the same as the Love Charger. Both are destined to create a happier you.

Medical science now recognizes a link between emotional fulfillment and physical health. People who are stressed out all of the time end up living a shorter time span than those who are happier. By using the Love Charger, you may not be guaranteed a longer life, but you are certainly guaranteed a happier and more peaceful life, which will probably lead to a physically healthier life as well.

Simply place the device under your pillow and allow the Love Charger to work its magic. In the morning, you will feel more rested and full of energy. With all of that positive energy flowing through you, you will feel ready to conquer the world. Your confidence level will be raised and you will be a happier person. No sleeping pill on earth can guarantee that!

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Using Vibrational Energy For Alternative Health

2008-06-05T15:00:00.005-07:00

While modern medicine has progressed light years in the past century, there seems to be more of a need than ever for alternative health. Alternative health is treatment other than traditional medicine. While traditional medicine definitely has its place in our lives, it tends to focus on medications and testing rather than overall well being. And most in the medical field agree that an emotionally happy person will tend to be physically healthier than a person who is unhappy and stressed out.

One way that people can use alternative health to make themselves happier is by using vibrational energy. Vibrational energy can actually be used to rejuvenate your energy as you sleep. This is an alternative health method that really works to actually restore lost energy, improve focus and memory, allow someone to fall asleep naturally without pills and cause them to wake up feeling energized.

Aging and Energy Loss

As you know, our bodies are created with energy. Energy is also all around us. When we sleep, many think that we actually regain energy. This is not true - we end up losing energy as we sleep. This is why we age and tend to become forgetful in our old age. It also accounts for the brain fog that we feel when we have spent a restless night tossing and turning or having a bad dream.

The Love Charger and Energy Restoration

A few years ago, Cory Herter found a way to harness some of the energy in the world and actually use it to energize us as we sleep. Vibrations contain energy and can be used to replenish energy while we sleep. If you sleep with the Love Charger, a device invented by Herter, you can expect not only to be able to fall asleep quite naturally, but also feel rested in the morning. Best of all, while you are sleeping, the Love Charger is working to restore energy into your body.

This alternative health method has proven to be quite successful with a various group of people. Both old and young alike enjoyed the benefits of the vibrational energy given off by the Love Charger as they slept. After all, why rely on sleeping pills or drastically alter your lifestyle when you can get better results from a simple vibrational device that stores vibrational energy and restores it into your body?

Alternative health is here to stay. More people are rejecting the idea that they have to take pills that can be dangerous and addictive in order to get to sleep. Most people want to love longer and happier lives. While regular medicine can do wonders for our bodies, alternative health methods can do wonders for our overall health, including both our minds and bodies. It is for this reason that many are seeking alternative health remedies for problems such as restlessness, insomnia, stress, depression and memory loss. We all want to live longer and healthier lives and alternative heath remedies can provide us with the answers that we all so desperately seek.

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2008-06-05T15:00:00.004-07:00

Using Vibrations for Self Development

2008-06-05T15:00:00.003-07:00

Do you want to live longer, have a better memory and be more productive at home and at work or school? Do you want to have a happier outlook on life and allow love to come into your life? Perhaps you should look into self development using vibrations.

Vibrational energy has been used for the past several years with great success for a variety of different reasons. It began as a way to get people to sleep and feel well rested the next day. People who used vibrational energy devices under their pillows found that they were waking up well rested, energized and feeling better about themselves.

Just about everyone has one aspect in their lives that they would like to improve. Very few of us have what we would like to call “the perfect life.” Most of us have an area where we would like some self development to take place. This can encompass the professional aspect of your life, the personal aspect, family relations or physical health. What would you say to a therapy that could give you everything you need regarding attaining higher self development without pills or a change in lifestyle?

The Truth About Energy Loss

When you sleep at night, you lose energy. You probably think, like most people, that you regain your energy when you go to sleep. This is true, but only partially. You regain some of the energy that you spent the day before, but not all of it. You lose about 10 percent of the energy you used the day before. As time goes on, this adds up. It is one of the fundamental causes of not only aging but also disease.

Using Vibrational Energy to Restore Lost Energy

If you wake up feeling refreshed, happy and confident, you will feel that way throughout the day. Ever have a day when everything seems to be going right? You feel confident and in top form all day. Ever have a day when everything goes wrong? You wish you would have stayed in bed. Like attracts like. If you want to feel good about yourself and move towards self development, one way to do so is by using vibrational energy therapy.

By using a vibrational device under your pillow as you sleep, you can recharge yourself and get all of your energy back that you expended the day before. You will not only be able to go to sleep without pills, but you will wake up feeling refreshed and more energized than ever. Your confidence level will be high and you will be able to attain higher self development.

Benefitting from Positive Energy

Self development is all about confidence. The more confident you are, the better the world will treat you. Ever notice someone who glows when they enter a room? They have confidence. Confidence comes from positive energy. And where does positive energy come from? It is absorbed into you when you seek self development and are open to new experiences. Try using vibrational energy as a way to attain higher self development and see how you can have an entirely different life. Areas in your life that are fine will be better and those that need fixing will be repaired.

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2008-06-05T15:00:00.002-07:00

Study: Meditation Can Help Adults and Children with ADHD

2008-06-05T15:00:00.001-07:00

Copyright (c) 2008 SharpBrains

Travel back, in your mind's eye, to a time when you felt a healthy exhaustion after hiking, biking, playing sports.., and let you re-live that moment as vividly as you can.

Then, remember, re-experience, a loving exchange that really touched you. Pause. See your partner. See the moment. Smell it. Hear what happened around you.

Next, visualize the most caring gesture you have ever received, as full of details as possible. Who gave you that gift of caring. How you felt.

Now, travel to the most magnificent place you have seen. Enjoy the views. Pause. Listen. Smile. Appreciate.

Congratulations. You have trained your brain. As Newsweek's Sharon Begley explained recently:

"But now neuroscientists have documented how "mere" thoughts can also sculpt the brain. Just thinking about playing a piano piece, over and over, can expand the region of motor cortex that controls those fingers; just thinking about depressive thoughts in new ways can dial down activity in one part of the brain that underlies depression and increase it in another, leading to clinical improvement."

We have talked about the value of meditation before. Only a few days ago, in predicting brain health trends for the next 5 years, I wrote that:

"Noncomputer-based programs will also prove to be effective tools. Research increasingly is affirming the value of such methods as meditation to train attention and regulate emotions, using cognitive therapy to build self-motivation and other abilities, and keeping a gratitude journal to affirm positives in one's life and improve self-reported happiness.

A fascinating new study (Mindfulness meditation training in adults and adolescents with ADHD. Journal of Attention Disorders, 11, 737-746) suggests the benefits of mindfulness for adolescents and adults with attention deficits.

Let's see what Dr. David Rabiner, Director of Undergraduate Studies in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Duke University, has to say about the topic:

"Mindfulness meditation is described as involving 3 basic steps: 1) bringing attention to an "attentional anchor" such as breathing; 2) noting that distraction occurs and letting go of the distraction; and, 3) refocusing back to the "attentional anchor". This sequence is repeated many times during the course of each meditative session. As the individual becomes better able to maintain focus on the attentional anchor, the notion of "paying attention to attention" is introduced and individuals are encouraged to bring their attention to the present moment frequently during the course of the day."

"By directing one's attention to the process of paying attention, to noticing notice when one becomes distracted, and to refocusing attention when distraction occurs, mindfulness meditation training can be thought of as an "attention training" program. As such, examining the impact of such training on individuals with ADHD becomes a very interesting question to pursue."

The Results of the study?

Seventy-eight percent of participants (25 of 33) completed the study. On average, participants attended 7 of the 8 weekly training sessions. Adults reported an average of 90 minutes and 4.6 sessions per week of at-home meditation practice; adolescents averaged 43 minutes and 4 sessions of weekly at-home practice. Both adolescents and adults who completed the program reported high levels of satisfaction with it - average scores above 9 on a 1 to 10 satisfaction scale.

Seventy-eight percent of participants reported a reduction in total ADHD symptoms, with 30% reporting at least a 30% symptom reduction (a 30% reduction in symptoms is often used to identify clinically significant improvement in ADHD medication trials). Because the majority of participants were receiving medication treatment, for many these declines represent improvement above and beyond what benefits were already being provided by medication.

On neurocognitive test performance, significant improvements were found on the measure of attentional conflict and on several other neuropsychological tests (i.e., Stroop color-word test and Trails A and B) but not for measures of working memory.

For adults, significant reductions in depressive and anxiety symptoms were reported. Comparable reductions in these symptoms were not evident in adolescents

In short: in order to fight Attention Deficits...may it not make sense to develop the "mental muscles" to Pay Attention?

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Alvaro Fernandez is the CEO and Co-Founder of SharpBrains.com, which tracks the brain fitness field including products developed by Posit Science and Dakim. SharpBrains has been recognized by Scientific American Mind, Newsweek, Forbes. Alvaro holds MA in Education and MBA from Stanford University, and teaches The Science of Brain Health at UC-Berkeley Lifelong Learning Institute. You can learn more at http://www.sharpbrains.com/

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Too Busy? Try These 6 Tips

2008-06-05T15:00:00.000-07:00

More and more, people talk about not having enough time to get everything done they need or want to do. During the Information Age, life has gotten more complex. You may have an endless list of things to do in your various roles. It is common to hear someone say, "I need more time." But isn't being busy suppose to be a good thing? After all, busy people seem needed, important, and successful.

Being busy can fool you; it can be a trap. As you race through the day, many times the activities you end up doing do not help you be who you really want to be.

Time is often talked about in financial terms and referred to as a precious non-renewable resource. You save it, spend it, or waste it. You may often feel you never have enough of it.

However, this analogy doesn't help you use time more effectively. Authors Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz believe energy, not time, is our most precious resource and that it is renewable. In their book "The Power of Full Engagement" (2003), they stress the need to balance expending and renewing your energy (time for rest/play) to be at your best.

There are several methods for scheduling your calendar for high productivity and minimal stress that will often work when other time management systems do not. They can be used separately or combined. Choosing from the following tips will help you have the energy you need to manage your time effectively:

1. Think of life as a series of sprints rather than a marathon. This allows you to push during crunch times followed by rest or play. The downtime is seen as necessary for your body and brain to process the information and prepare for the next task. Constant busyness is seen as a threat to success. Rest and play is necessary and celebrated.

2. Limit your to-do list to the two or three things that are most important for that day. Plan to schedule 60-70% of your day for tasks. Leave at least 30% for "other".

3. Schedule according to the task when you are able to group tasks into more general categories for a week, i.e. work, commute, exercise, appointments, email, spiritual, self-care, spouse, family, etc. Grouping your weekly tasks into blocks of time relates to the four energy sources (physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual) and helps remind you of the need for balance in your life. Then place more specific tasks in the appropriate category for a particular day. For instance, you can take your day at work and break it down into specific tasks.

4. Schedule by the day and type of time when you can establish certain days for specific tasks. Days can be full days, half days, or a couple of hours. Begin by thinking of 3 categories:

- Focus Time - when you need to accomplish a task that requires thinking, planning, writing, etc. To eliminate distractions, turn off phones, close your door, or do whatever else is necessary for you to focus. You can start with one hour and increase the time as needed. Educate co-workers and family about this uninterrupted time and that you will be available later.

- Flexible Time - when you can handle interruptions - phone, email, etc. that do not require as much focus.

- Free Time - no work; time for recharging without feeling guilty. Start with a couple of hours weekly, gradually adding more time until you can take one whole day several times a month or weekly.

5. Put specific tasks in the Focus, Flexible and Free time areas to combine the two different ways to schedule time.

6. Combine the idea of money and energy by imagining that every morning you have $20 worth of energy for the day. When your $20 is gone, your energy is gone for the day. (Fortunately, you get another $20 the next day.) How do you want to spend your energy? What tasks will get the most energy and the smallest amount of your energy for that particular day?

When you know what is important to you and you know why, the choices of how you spend your time become easier. Understand your core values and strengths. Consider what you can delegate or drop. Instead of taking a look at your list of things to do, take a look at the outcomes you desire. What do you really want? What are you here to do? Spend time in the areas that will bring you the desired results. Following one or more of these tips, you will find that you are accomplishing and enjoying more of what you do. I wish you the best of success on your journey.

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The #1 Most Common Goof In Personal Development Is Trying To Get Rid Of Your Ego - Part 1

2008-06-04T15:00:00.006-07:00

One consistent and popular theme concerning the Ego is it is looked upon as bad and something we have to constantly work to get rid of. I myself fell into constantly berating the ego and fighting against it. Doing this unknowingly created an on going and increasing problem for myself. The more I fought against the ego, the more confused I became, and less confident I felt. If you have experienced much of the same, let me explain what happen that changed all that for me.

Somewhere deep inside I was feeling that something was missing in what I could do to help myself gain more clarity, confidence and ultimately live my birth right of health, wealth and happiness. I called out for help. When I asked I received huge assistance in the form of being able to look at life and what was happening in my life more unconditionally. I felt fortune was smiling on me because I came across an understanding of the Ego that I have never seen elsewhere. It was through a course that provided insights and a framework for life, in a very grounded systemic way that allowed me to make giant strides in my life and move me forward at a pace that I had never experienced before because I understood cause and effect, attraction and countless other principles on a much deeper and simpler level.

By using this material (mentioned at the end of this article), I was able to integrate the powerful knowledge this course provided and actually use my Ego, unconditionally and responsibly to assist me and empower me to easily meet my goals.

Let me share briefly upon what this material taught and awakened within me as a level of truth I knew was missing yet didn't know where to find it.

We Are Actually Supposed To Have An Ego

We are supposed to have an ego. I just didn't know how to allow my Ego to serve me instead of distract me. Our Ego is a part of us just as our heart and soul are a part of us. Yet this is the only part of us that is described as "something we need to get rid of." It is like someone telling us that we need to get rid of our left arm, or our lungs. Those are the physical parts of us that we use to function as a body in this dimension, just as our Ego as a part of our being, allows us to function in this dimension. We require our Ego to experience life through our own personality, viewpoint and our own way of being. The Ego expresses our preference for lemonade over orange juice, or our preference for vacations in Hawaii over vacations in London. Our Ego is what makes life interesting for us, our Ego is what allows us to express our unique gift throughout the world. It is the one thing that makes us unique unto ourselves.

Is there any wonder why we have all struggled for years and years attempting to 'get rid' of our Ego? Why would we want to eliminate the very thing that gives us our own unique flavor?

Stay tuned for part 2 of the article where we discuss what getting rid of the Ego is really confused with and why understanding the ego is important to our personal development.

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How to stay Motivated In The Face Of A Mounting Work Load!

2008-06-04T15:00:00.005-07:00

Motivation is one of the main contributing factors towards success. The best skills, education and experience can amount to precious little in the absence of a sense of motivation towards your work.

Is it a problem with you that you tend to lack motivation when it is essentially important to have it?

Do you feel that you would be very successful if only you had a bit of motivation and excitement for the job you are into?

So how do you keep yourself motivated?

Here are some mantras to help you.

1. Pick Yourself Up

If you walk long enough, you are going to stumble. Accept this universal truth. The key to success is in getting up, dusting yourself of and carrying on. Never let faults and failures let you down and decrease your working capacity. Shrug it off and do not allow it ever to overcome you and fail you further by depression.

2. Compete

Nothing spurs us on more than competition. Competition need not necessarily be against another individual. Every task can be looked upon as a competition - you have been assigned the task because you are perceived to be the best at it, or the most probable to succeed at it.

Fail and sure enough there will be someone waiting to take over the task and the mantle from you. Build up the spirit of competition in you. Your hard work in this rapidly progressing capitalist society will give you nothing unless you compete against somebody and for something.

3. Focus on the positives

Failures or bad days bring us down. Mulling about these failures for too long can seriously dent your motivation and ability to work. Leave your failures behind. Don't ignore them - analyze them and learn from them. But once that's done, shift your focus to the positive aspects of your life.

4. Try something new

We love a challenge or an adventure. It is in our basic nature as humans. Every now and then take up something new and challenging. It will provide your mind with fresh fodder, and motivate you tremendously. You will find your energy levels perk up and your general outlook towards your work will improve.

5. Motivation is temporal It's difficult to be motivated throughout your life since life is full of unexpected twists and turns. In many occasions you also suffer jeopardizing situations, which shake your very foundations. Understand them, learn from them and get back on the job. Staying motivated takes some effort, put in the work.

6. Understand yourself

Everyone is unique and each one of us has our own quirks and handles. Understand what works for you and what doesn't. Keep in view things and objects which helps to motivate you as well as occurrences and people who de-motivate you.

7. Be passionate

If you have to pick one consistent trait among people who have been successful at their chosen professions or pursuits, it will have to be passion. A passion that is the main driving force behind every action you take. Passion for the job you are doing is paramount to keep you motivated for it.

8. Talk yourself up

Ever wonder what coaches tell boxers between rounds? Boxing tips and techniques? Probably not. It is far more likely that the coach lifts the spirits of the boxer and motivates him with positive talk. Keep a check on your self-talk. Replace and monitor your negative thinking with positive solutions from your heart and think of feel good things that will help to enliven you and hence provide motivation.

Motivating yourself could be the easiest or the hardest thing to do. We've gone through some mantras that should help you find your motivating factor. Adapt these to your specific traits and situations and if you do so then obstacles will just breeze past you and success will be within your grasp.

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Utilizing The Law of Harmony To Manifest Peace In Our Lives!

2008-06-04T15:00:00.004-07:00

The universal law of harmony is one grounded it love and respect for ourselves and each other. It's a principal based around unifying ourselves with everything in the world around us.

There are laws of man which have created imbalance in many of our lives and this has been reflected into the world, and our surroundings and are the cause of dis-harmony with others and that of nature. It's true, we really do move towards our most dominant thoughts, and through self-limiting and fear based thoughts we've collectively manifested imbalances into the world and universe around us.

But the good news is it can be reversed, and as we become more aware, more educated and more in alignment with the law of harmony the world will begin to improve in harmony with our conscious thoughts of peace, love and unity.

The meaning of the word "harmony" can be defined as a state of balance and equality, where separate units of energy work together to form a state of oneness and peace. Therefore if we work consciously to think and then act harmoniously, we'll essentially decrease the conflicts, discord, disharmony and disease in the world, because where there is harmony there is no disharmony.

The only way we can begin rolling the ball of harmony in the world is by thinking and living in harmony with ourselves. It's realizing that absolutely everything responds to love, tenderness and appreciation. To be in harmony with ourselves, we must first love and appreciate who we are, be tender and direct ourselves in kind. While we may not like all the things we manifest, we do need to love them and treat them with respect, because acting otherwise and beating ourselves up over them would be creating a disharmony in our lives.

This in turn creates disharmony in the energy around us and everyone and everything else will be out of harmony also. And it's in times like these that we need to slow down, look, listen and learn from what we're projecting and begin harmony within ourselves to bring balance back.

When we resist our creations we are indeed out of harmony with the world. Because what we manifest from our thought energy, into the realm of material actualization are the outer conditions we need to face to learn and grow. Some of the outer manifestations are not pleasant and it's important to know that these creations aren't here to punish us, but rather we tend to punish ourselves because of them. The lessons to learn from such situations are that in some way we've brought a disharmonious energy into our lives and we ourselves are out of harmony.

Here's a list of areas affected by not being in harmony:

1. Feelings - When these are out of harmony our solar plexus can be affected.

2. Love is affected by working on our heart chakra (around a heart region).

3. Understanding - If we don't understand something it can affect our mind (our third eye Chakra).

So our physical self and circumstance are affected by holding onto our own self-denials, and resistance and lack of recognition. We are who we are and who we are needs no excuses and requires no explanation.

It's quite possible to live in conjunction with the law of harmony, we do it by observing and practicing the universal law of "non-judgment" which then allows us to see more clearly, intuitively and realistically so we can find constructive solutions to our lessons in life.

We just have to cease seeing our creations as being wrong or as some form of punishment that is sent to us, and rather as what they are, a neutral energy that has manifested itself due to our existing thought patterns. The reason why we resist and deny such manifestations in our lives is because we don't want to see our deepest fears or thoughts to manifest into reality, so we bury our heads in the sand when they do and pass them off as "there's nothing I could do about that."

If we could apply our own harmony into other peoples worlds, in the form of applying a balanced, loving and non-judgemental expression toward other peoples creation of their world, instead of intensifying their imbalance through pity, sympathy and empathy, then we have a far better chance of balancing the world. If however we accept the sometimes imbalanced actions of others into our world, we'll only intensify their actions into your own world. So in essence our own harmony need to be balance first and foremost, then and only then can we begin to manifest miracles of healing, teaching and showing others how to be more balanced and harmonious in their own lives.

Once you rejoin the one spirit, energy or God force that we are all part of and not try to separate yourself from that, harmony will live within you more and you'll then attract and ignite harmony in the hearts of others, it all begins inside of you first.

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Adam Price is an online holistic author & coach on the laws of the universe for life & business. Learn how tap into the powerful laws of the universe in your life by visiting:

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Break It Down: The Un-Sexy Secret to Taking Action

2008-06-04T15:00:00.003-07:00

Remember when you were a baby, with only a few miniature teeth, and your parents would sit next to your high chair and cut up your food into tiny, tiny pieces before spearing it with a fork and bringing it towards your mouth?

What if they had instead handed us a whole roasted chicken and said, "bon appetit" -- we wouldn't have fared very well. Many of us, however, throw down the equivalent of roasted chickens on our to-do lists and then wonder why we're procrastinating.

No question, the allure and glory of a big, dramatic goal - "lose 50 pounds" or "build multi-million-dollar company " - is what inspires us to achieve great things. But the problem with big, dramatic goals is that they can be so overwhelming and daunting that we resist actually taking the first step.

The key to overcoming inertia lies in breaking things down: while "lose one pound" may not sound terribly impressive, every ambitious goal and complex activity is the sum of many such incremental actions. Faced with a bite-size first step, it's easier to get started which makes it easier to take the next step and, voila, soon you have momentum. But knowing how to break things down is a creative skill, and one we're not explicitly taught in school or elsewhere. So here are three tactics to help you get started:

- START SMALL. I mean ridiculously small, so incremental that there's virtually no resistance. If "draft global licensing agreement" has been on your to-do list for too long, try "draft first page (or first paragraph!) of global licensing agreement." Still procrastinating? Break it down again to: "open new document, name it global licensing agreement." There's no shame in starting small if it means you get started.

- START SPECIFIC. If your tasks sound vague and ambiguous without a clear ending point - e.g. "overhaul entire file organization system" - you'll be much less likely to get started. Describe your tasks in specific, finite ways - "alphabetize files in left bottom drawer" - so you'll know exactly when they're completed and you can cross them off your list.

- START SHORT. Likewise, it's difficult to get started when you know a project is going to take awhile. So try my 15/30/45 rule: in the beginning, when resistance is high, frame your tasks so that they can be completed in 15 minutes. As you build momentum, you can work up to 30 and 45 minute time periods (this is how I break down a monolithic three-hour piano practice session, for example). As a result, instead of doing something until it just happens to get done, I break it down into set amounts of time in which to achieve specific mini-goals, which keeps me focused and in motion.

If you're like me, you'll find that resistance to beginning a project or task feels strong because we assume that it will grow and get even stronger once we've started. But, in fact, overcoming resistance is more like breaking through a wall - not climbing a mountain - and it will melt away once you're in motion.

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How Self Development with the Tarot Works

2008-06-04T15:00:00.002-07:00

You can think about the reason why you want to read the Tarot and may be focus on the things which help the Tarot read what's on you mind. Try to think of a question before you see the Tarot reader. Do not think that the Tarot is designed to answer yes or no. If you see guidance in the Tarot from the Reader, you may also feel better at the end of the session. Ask sensible questions as well. You may even have a clearer view on how to see further on into the future.

Some may feel as though the Tarot cards have helped them through a situation, which may have happened in, there present life and then ultimately may see a change. The numbers may be of help in some decisions in your life. They may guide you. Some people need guidance just for a short while when gathering thoughts. There are many interpretations of certain Tarot cards.

Even if you are a beginner, you can still read the Tarot cards. You can find the best resources on the internet as to what sort to Tarot you may want to use whether it would be online face to face or by e-mail, CD or cassette tapes or even books. There are also various articles available to read in all the above items, which you can refer to. The sites are available for anyone to check out the different and variable Tarot cards. For many centuries the Tarot cards has claimed to offer or even helped answer any provocative questions in life.

Tarot Cards have benefits and limitations. Everyone makes choices no matter where they are in their life. Tarot does not make miracles happen and are not a substitute for any medical care and other cures. Tarot cannot physically help you with any problems that you may have they can only guide you. They cannot answer whether you will get married or have a baby on any given day or date.

There are various sets of cards depending on the sort of Tarot cards or decks that you may read. If you are interested in reading Tarot, you can always search the internet for any further questions you may ask about the cards. Tarot cards may be very accurate as to the events, or whatever has happened to that person. The Internet is the quickest way to find out more information on the Tarot cards.

Tarot readings are available for people if they need to contact them and they answer from the pictures or numbers on the Tarot cards. People can be emailed by a Tarot. It is entirely unto the individual person whether they want to know by different methods. There is encyclopedia on the Tarot.

One can also make a personal journal once Tarot is being taught and it can be a reflection one what a person has done in there life's journey in life.

There are also courses that can be taught on Tarot. There are many websites that can be checked also very many pictures of the Tarot cards can be seen on them as well.

There are many Decks or Tarot cards, which can vary all over the world. Tarot serves many a purpose in your life and journey. Tarot has a confusing history to then. One can always study the cards on a course if may be. Results of the Tarot can be achieved with analysis of one card. Tarot cards can be a good thing when focusing on what is currently on your mind. Good luck when reading the Tarot. Get more news about tarot.

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The Truth about Anger Management Classes

2008-06-04T15:00:00.001-07:00

There is a common misconception that anger management is only for people out of control or who are being “punished” for a crime and must complete a class as part of a disciplinary action. This fallacy could not be farther from the truth. Anger management is an umbrella term for a much larger category of education and training. While the media has commonly portrayed anger management as “dirty” or “punitive” it is actually a course that anyone could take to improve relationship skills.

Unfortunately, few people proactively take advance of the growth of anger management providers available and the skills which can be gained by completing a quality anger management class. Wouldn’t you want to improve communication skills, manage stress more effectively, improve judgment and impulse control and become more empathic towards others? Who wouldn’t? Anger management classes are aimed at teaching important skills to help improve interpersonal relationships. Anger can have lasting and long-term damaging effects on those around you who you care about. Anger can destroy a meaningful relationship over time. Don’t allow this to happen.

Our programs utilize the highly acclaimed Century Anger Management (CAM) model of intervention, which this author is the co-founder. CAM utilizes 8 core tools of anger control which include:

* Stress management

* Empathy Development

* Learning to respond instead of react

* Improving self-talk

* Assertive Communication

* Expectation Management

* Forgiveness

* Retreat and think things over

All anger management classes are structured and each participant will use our client workbook, “Anger Management in the Twenty-First Century”. Participants will also receive pre and post assessments at the beginning and completion of our programs. Anger management classes are ideal for individuals, couples, and families as well as business professionals and court ordered clients. For more information on our Anger Management Classes or our Online Anger Management Classes please contact our office directly or visit our websites.

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Is your Workplace grinding you to a Halt?

2008-06-04T15:00:00.000-07:00

Are you annoyed by the way in which things are turning out in your workplace?

Do you work from home and are gradually finding no scope of motivating your inner self to continue with your selected work?

Before you start tearing your hair out, take a look around at your workplace, be it at your home or your office.

Though it sounds distant, your immediate work environment can significantly affect your productivity and skills.

So what can you do to improve your workplace?

1. Liven it up!

Take a look around at your workplace. Do you find the environment dull and drab? It should not be - research has demonstrated the positive impact of a bright and lively work environment. The use of bright colours and the right amount of space and light helps to create a positive working environment.

2. Smell the roses

Texas A&M University has revealed the effect of flowers on the workplace with its research of eight months.

The entire experiment was carried out on the staff members of hectic official workplaces that were involved in problem solving procedures and how the addition of flowers enhanced their motivation and productivity.

Even hospitals use flowers to create a positive environment. So, try and have a fresh bunch of flowers appealingly arranged on your desk every morning and you will find your energy levels and enthusiasm increase.

3. Push Play

Music has a tremendous impact on our state of mind the genre, tempo and general nature of music has been found to have a significant influence on our mood. Music, therefore, can play a big role in improving your work environment and consequently motivating you.

Though the music must be wisely selected - you want the kind of music that soothes your mind and keeps it fresh and motivated towards your work. Typically, soft background music, that doesn't distract your mind from your work at hand, works best.

4. Don't loose your sense of humour.

There is a funny side to work and work related pressures and stresses that help tremendously in lightening up and not getting bogged down under the pressure of it all.

Hence, to induce your work environment to make you work effectively, you can put up humorous posters like that of a very witty joke or a cartoon strip character. Such posters and strips are widely available - if you're looking for a place to start, the daily Dilbert strip is one option.

5. Clear the clutter

Over time, our desks tend to get phenomenally cluttered. There's paper strewn all over the place and the pile just keeps building up. All this clutter tends to create an atmosphere of pressure as it consciously reminds you of pending work and expiring deadlines.

Clear your desk - make sure you get rid of the old stuff and keep the current or pending paperwork in an organized manner (preferably in a cabinet). You will be surprised at the impact something as simple as this will have in motivating you.

6. Ergonomics

While often ignored, workplace ergonomics is very important, not only from the point of view of ensuring maximum output during your work day, but also from a long term health perspective. A lot of modern day professionals run into serious health issues primarily because of bad workplace ergonomics.

Spend some time and money ensuring you have the right workstation setting - the table, your chair, your computer monitor, keyboard, mouse etc.

7. Nourishment

Keep some quality nourishment at hand. Be it a bowl of fruit, or any other form of snack you prefer. Also keep your coffee/ tea pot at hand if you need your regular cup of preferred brew through the day.

Trying to concentrate on your work whilst hunger or thirst demand attention is futile. You will end up wasting a lot of time doing sub-par work just to avoid having to walk all the way to the kitchen or cafeteria.

Treat your workplace as you would your home you want to keep it bright, fresh and a positive influence.

I have gone through some general suggestions to improve your work environment. However, every individual is unique and you should make sure that your immediate environment goes with you and your personality, and you have it under perfect control.

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How To Release Turmoil With The Universal Law of "It Matters Not"

2008-06-03T15:00:00.003-07:00

The law of "It Matters Not" is one that requires a dedication, love and acceptance of ourselves first. If we don't truly accept who we are and love ourselves then this law won't apply to us, until we're ready for it, by accepting ourselves.

The reason for us needing to know ourselves very deeply in application to this law, is the fact that on a subconscious and unconscious level what happens to us really does matter, and we respond to situations as though they matter. While we're in this frame of mind, we're never going to be able to practice and use the law of "it matters not".

In allowing ourselves to be affected by external opinions of ourselves (and this includes friends, family, spouse, boss and colleagues) we display how others are going to affect us, because we are projecting it via our actions and responses to the various situations that arise.

So it's only when we accept ourselves and are at peace and centred with who we are, that we're able to apply the law of it matters not from a sub and unconscious level. However some of us might insist on the use of man's laws instead of the natural laws, and think along the lines of "it doesn't matter." But the fact is it does matter, because only when acknowledge and accept ourselves, can we truly apply the law of it matters not.

Once we do begin applying the law of it matters not we can begin to respond, create and react from our highest level of thought and intelligence. This means we don't look externally to others for approval of what they see in us.

You begin to notice how important this law is as you go through life and gain deeper understanding of it. You'll begin to apply and implement the wisdom gained from this and be able to use it for the better of humanity, which will create a greater love, understanding and acceptance of yourself. And from understanding yourself you'll receive the opportunity to grow personally.

For example, you've fought for quite an extended period of time to get a promotion or move up in the world to where you feel you have "real" purpose. But for whatever reason, according to man's law (this could be your boss, authorities or others) you learn that they don't approve of your new role and deny you the right to follow your purpose.

This could really create a lot of conflict in your life, especially if you choose to go against what all others think and manifest a large deal of conflict between you and the other opposing party involved.

If you just let go, and live by the law of it matters not, and know well within yourself that by you doing what you're passionate about doing, you'll bring about a positive outcome for yourself and eventually others as well. Above all else, you'll be living in alignment with the law of it matters not.

Once we understand this natural law it becomes quite simple to apply it when we are doing our daily activities. It helps prepare us for whatever balance or imbalance that might manifest itself to us, and we're willing to investigate it, accept it and work in conjunction with it.

So in understanding and taking onboard this attitude of "it matters not," we'll never again worry about what others think of us, because we'll know that another man's opinion about us is only reflecting their insecurities or pride they hold in themselves, it's like a mirror. We attract into our lives the people, situations and scenarios that we need to learn from ourselves, and quite often while some of these are quite uncomfortable, we can often identify a mirror of that quality in ourselves somewhere. So we need to practice "non-judgment" and understand that our health is always in alignment with how much we accept, love and forgive ourselves.

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Adam Price is an information marketer on the laws of the universe for life & business. Learn how tap into the powerful laws of the universe in your life by visiting:

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Be a winner by defining your goals

2008-06-03T15:00:00.002-07:00

Copyright (c) 2008 Ori Foyer

Part of success lies in identifying your goals. It involves determining where you are and what you want to achieve. Without this knowledge, you are lost because you may not have a sense of direction. Your goals define your 'purpose' that is essential for being successful in your undertakings. Many businesses fail to succeed just because they do not have clearly defined goals to start with. Defining your goals can be a challenging task, especially if you are doing it for the first time. Therefore, we have provided some helpful suggestions on setting your goals.

The first step you should perform is to determine all the possible benefits that you can derive from your goal. This can be motivational and inspiring. It may also help in determining the usefulness of your projects. It is suggested, that you should ask yourself about why you want to achieve your goal. This will give you purpose and sense of direction. For example if you want to excel as a successful programmer then you must try to visualize all the possible benefits. Think of all the satisfaction you can derive from completing all those software projects. If you are concerned in selling products, then all those products should motivate you to achieve your dream to turn into one of the top salesmen in your company.

You can analyze your current position to gain an understanding of how you should operate in the market. Secondly, you must have the latest information so that you are good at your analysis. The information you have should be precise and coherent. It should not lack consistency. For example, if you are consider of exporting televisions to overseas markets then it is always a excellent thought to check out the latest international prices, so that you can make profits accordingly. Therefore, information plays a vital role in conducting successful undertakings.

Part of your planning process should involve identifying obstacles. You should make plans for everything that could possibly prevent you from achieving your goals. In this way you can prepare your self for minor set backs that can create problems in the longer run.

An effective way setting your goals is by creating lists. These lists can include your financial calculations and the exact amount of money that you will invest in your project. Planning for money is important. Many projects fail to complete simply because they are over financial plan. Therefore, establishing funds for your objectives is necessary. Your budget will also guide you in determining how much profits you should be really making.

We suggest that at this stage you should reassess your goals and look for any elements that are missing. It is always useful to find out what other resources you will require to complete your projects. Once you have complete knowledge of your surroundings, you should start making a list of the key players. They can include people, groups and organizations that can prove helpful in making your project a success. Goal setting requires carefully assessing your current position and determining where you want to be. Next you can start with dividing these goals into simpler objectives that can be achieved later on.

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You Can't Escape It!

2008-06-03T15:00:00.001-07:00

Rather than trying to develop a thick emotional skin toward beating off fear; a more effective (and emotionally healthy) approach is to seek an understanding why positive emotions are eaten into by fear.

Our imaginations often and easily amplify our fears and can spring up from an immediate stimulus.

A young mother is excited and displays strong positive emotions about her young daughter attending her first day in kindergarten. Once the young child has been dropped off, and is out of sight, the mother’s excitement and positive emotions begin to erode. Feeling of worries and concerns about her child rain down on her like a cloud burst opening up in the sky.

The imagination begins to conjure up horrific thoughts and pictures that we are exposed too most often by the media and personal life events. The visual image of a place or surrounding sounds can bring on an amplification of negative emotion that seems to spring up out of nowhere. In the case of the mother, after returning home, can have a negative emotion erupt upon hearing on television the news of a child that was kidnap that morning.

Its commonplace to find that for every positive emotion there is a negative counter part. The difference between what may be a normal day and a bad day is due to the emotional causes in our life.

Fear and its relentless brother, anxiety, is the core to emotional disorder. Fear and anxiety bring about ongoing problems because the conditions that create them are ongoing.

The question we all face is how we can cope with negative emotions if we can’t control all the conditions around us.

Perhaps the best way is differentiating between rational negative emotions and irrational negative emotions: Rational negative emotion is based on an objective understating of a situation and is normal.

You have been selected for an interview by a new employer (your excitement brings about a positive emotion). But, then the negative emotions set in when you aren't certain how to deliver an opening of your presentation to your prospective employer; you'll most likely experience fearfulness. Not being able to handle specific objections from your prospective employer may cause you to retreat from moving through the interview successfully. These negative emotions, many times originate from a simple lack of preparation, knowledge and experience.

Overcoming rational negative emotion is to plan, prepare and practice every step of the interview process. Including knowing as much about your prospective employer objectives and potential objections so that there is absolutely no area where you feel uncertain.

Irrational negative emotions are the most damaging when developed into clusters such as:

· Fear of rejection

· Fear of self-promotion

· Fear of the unknown

· Fear of authority

· Fear of change

· Fear of being foolish

· Fear of being harmed

· And a host of others

Irrational negative emotions are inner emotions that have little rational and require a different approach to resolving.

However, don't blame your feelings when the emotions of fear start to bubble up inside you. Your feelings are the symptoms of your problem. The real perpetrator is in your behavior or mismanaged emotional energy.

What is most important is that you consciously recognize the fear when it occurs. Then seek to understand its root cause.

That awareness alone will often minimize the fear and will also help you determine the most effective way to approach your problem. Unfortunately we are stuck with the negative counter part of positive emotion. The best we can do is to learn how to manage emotional energy more effectively.

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Dynamics Of The Human Spirit, Truths, Concepts And Procedures

2008-06-03T15:00:00.000-07:00

How this series of articles came about

A person’s life is made up of many types of journeys, some are short and reaching the destination does not take a lot of preplanning. Others are intermediate and take more effort and a reasonable amount of planning and preparation to complete. Then there are those that extend years into the future and are ongoing until death. Those journeys that never end are a work in process as they provide guiding principles for other journeys. Then there are the waylaid journeys that end up tossed into the sea of lost dreams. All are worthy of applying our time and effort none claim our total experience. Because we were given this undertaking, it is our hope that you will discover your inner self in God while studying these articles. These detailed articles are a labor of love; developed so you might understand and welcome a special relationship with God.

Some writings are not truths.

Throughout history there have been many individual writings but those found in this series of articles are a result of many people’s generous outpouring of love and shared experiences over a long period of many years. Hundreds of minds covering the spectrum from highly educated to the simplicity of a child were sought out, interviewed and incorporated to develop a guide, no a defining course of action, that if followed will accelerate its’ apprentice to heights of satisfaction in knowing greatness. Religious leaders, business leaders, managers, clinical psychologists, psychiatrists, educators, industrialists, psychologists, government leaders, behaviorists, management experts, statisticians, economists, neurologists, life scientists, sociologists and playground children, to name a few poured out their hearts in contributing their inner beliefs and experiences for your good.

Let’s face it; all the writings and experts in the world cannot make anything happen without participation and passion. It is our belief, one’s cause that spears the deep tentacles of passion lies in the heart and touches the soul thus driving the inner mind toward heights never before imagined. In reality, the only difference between a star and a super star is a deep-seated passion for the game. While some contenders harbor truths that drive them to success; others miss the mark and fail miserably. Be assured, all who muster the strength to try will discover their inner selves. Really, there is no failure in venturing, for the only failure is in lack of trying. The laws of opposites prevail where the challenge is, to venture ahead and endure or stand still and perish. In not trying one stagnates and becomes sour in their thinking, giving way for failure.

The Power of Multiple minds.

The miracle contained within God’s creation of the human body teaches many lessons. While being surprisingly simple it is also profoundly complex. When subjected to the scrutiny of being put under the microscope, what do we find? People are essentially millions of single cell unites of life acting together in unison directed toward a common cause to form tissues . . . tissues, uniting together to form organs . . . organs coordinating their functions to form systems . . . and systems cooperating as a dynamic organism we call humans. And, God breathed into man to make him a living soul. What a marvelous achievement for the creator of the Universe. Man, part material earth, part spiritual God but all living, conscious being, in His image and likeness.

What is the common success denominator of man? Teamwork . . . all systems must work together to achieve success. What is the purpose of man? Humans were created to please God as he experiences life through man’s experiences. Life! Growth! Realization! Consciousness! Action! Achievement! This can only be accomplished in a dynamic organism called human being. Only humans have the ability to think, act on his/her thought, and progress toward success. Yes, only people can accomplish by using coordinated systems to function. Only humans were given the gift of a “living soul.”

Gen 2:7 And the LORD God formed man [of] the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.

Christians are not alone

While concepts are terms of science, procedures are terms of man, and truths are terms of God. Christian or not, the same laws are demonstrated in all aspects throughout the human experience, Businesses, governments, and societies are governed by the same laws that were afforded mankind. One individual executive does not run a fortune five hundred company and one individual man does not dictate policy to a society. It takes many people on all levels implementing the best-laid strategies to bring a corporation to a successful product or a government to a successful society. The fact is, any well-laid strategy must come from the efforts of many. It took thousands of experts to put a man on the moon and it also took thousand of people working together to develop and put into place our interstate highway system.

When utilizing the best of the best in a teamwork effort, anything can be accomplished. Skyscrapers are built, and infrastructures are put into place, and aircraft fly around the world, how, by joining multiple minds together for a single purpose. We have prepared for just that; we are “Dedicated to your highest spiritual development, social success and financial growth.” You are the captain; we are the ship that will take you safely on your journey.

In our ever-complex world, Governments and large companies as well are leaning toward the ever-growing analyses that the “multiple mind” concept produces more favorable results. Governments and larger companies are more alert to this concept because they are better equipped with pertinent data and staff specialists who are fully alert to the multitude of minds and materials available to their particular projects.

It is the growing function as internal specialist not so much to bring their own expertise to bear on their company’s problems, but rather to be the eyes and ears of operating management to point out where the exact help that is needed, can be obtained and choose the individual service best suited to the need as well as interpret and evaluate the results.

Now you have at your advantage this same concept in this easy to understand series of articles. This is a program developed especially for you to assist in your soul development.. Thousands of minds stand proudly diligent in standing behind your every effort. You as are the driver, the force that will take this information and climb to great heights. The hundreds of hours we have spent writing, fretting, and anxiously anticipating that second, that very moment when you begin your journey to life in its’ richest . . . this is what we work for, this is our reward.

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Aries Star Sign Explained

2008-06-02T15:00:00.000-07:00

The Aries star sign is recognised as one of the fire signs of the zodiac. By being born under the fire sign they often have their own characteristics. The fire can breeds a certain enthusiasm and energy into the Aries star sign and the person. Nevertheless, the magnitude of this enthusiasm can range greatly depending upon their mental state and wellbeing at the time. This can make this star sign one of the least predictable of all the star signs in the Zodiac. In the same way that this star sign can be fickle with people they also have little respect for routine and at their happiest when the situation is constantly changing even it is beyond their control. A routine for Aries can become boring and dull. Aries are always to bring a bit of excitement to their life even if it involves risk however large the risk may be. If you fail to keep the Aries star sign entertained they will become indifferent and hostile to even those closest to them.

It is important that this sign is governed by Mars. Subsequently, they are strong willed and rarely back down even against the most aggressive of the other star signs. Moreover, they are probably the best star sign to have in your army. They show courage, determination and clearly strive to achieve their goals.

The Aries star sign is part of the elite cardinal group of star signs. These are the leaders of the pack and you will soon realise that in the work place and even at home. Aries enjoy change and can often be the leaders of projects to ensure everyone is doing what the Aries wants them to do. With this they can have great leadership skills. However, if something does not happen quickly and the way they want it to happen an Aries will soon their patience and in some cases might take on the tasks believing they can do a much better job. Indeed a more aggressive Aries will even make it clear to the person that they are better at the job!

Being a fire sign Aries are often warm hearted and will often have the greatest range of friends. Aries find it is easy to make friends. Their willingness to take a risk, pursuit of excitement and whole hearted passion in everything that they do make them excellent friends and potentially fantastic businessmen. In relationships, this star sign performs best when paired when an air sign like Gemini or Libra. Sometimes the relationships between these two signs can often be the strongest of any of the signs. In business they work especially well under other cardinal star signs like Capricorn.

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Do You Have An Employee Retention Strategy That Also Increases Employee Motivation?

2008-06-01T15:00:00.002-07:00

These were the questions posed to Business owners in a workshop at an Annual Conference at Disney's Coronado Springs Resort earlier this year. Thanks to their contributions, this article became possible as an employee retention and employee motivation learning tool for you.

Teams were created to brainstorm answers to each of these questions. It wasn't long before everyone started to see a common element in all three areas.

The common element was people and how management relates to employee retention and employee motivation, no matter what area they worked in.

Everyone agreed that it is the people, and their attitudes that make the difference. Finally, we concluded that it is you, the management team that has to first make the difference in employee retention and employee motivation. Therefore, let's look inside.

You can't have something on the outside if you don't first have it on the inside. In other words you cannot attract good employees if you don't first have the right attitude towards your existing employees, provide a good working atmosphere, tools and growth opportunities.

So take a close look at your employee retention and employee motivation strategies, since they are both under your direct management influence.

Here are some of the team's top answers on employee retention and employee motivation:

Employee Retention

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Keep your promises

Build employees self-esteem

Good access to management Training and Cross Training

Staff events / Team building

React on employee suggestions

Regular staff meetings, parties Everyone is equal to each other

Employee motivation

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Ongoing staff training

Keep employees informed of status

Frequent /consistent rewards and recognition for performance

Set goals, review, evaluate, feedback

Lead by example

Mentoring programs

Be sensitive to personal issues

When you take a close look at these two areas, you can see a lot of overlap. What you do to increase employee motivation also applies to employee retention and vice versa.

Some of the main areas of employee retention and employee motivation that are commonly overlooked are orientation training, the establishment of team and individual goals, having ongoing reviews and providing constructive feedback.

Without these elements the employee is wandering around aimlessly, and doesn't get any feedback on their performance. How can you expect the employee to meet or exceed your expectations if they don't know what they are or how they are doing in relation to your expectations?

In a previous article that I wrote, I pointed out what motivated employees the most and how employee retention and loyalty faired out based on the results of National research study.

The three top elements were:

1.Full appreciation of work done

2.Feeling of being in on things

3.Help on personal problems

Full appreciation of work done is recognition. Recognition is positive reinforcement. Positive reinforcement of actions gets those actions repeated. Recognition and praise reinforces our beliefs about ourselves, and helps make us think we are better than we may have thought we were.

Positive reinforcement is what builds our self-esteem. Our self-esteem is the way we see and feel about ourselves either internally, through our own beliefs, or externally through what we accept as the beliefs of others. If we feel good about ourselves and we believe others feel good about us, we perform better than we would when we see the opposite side of the coin.

People perform in a manner that is consistent with how they see themselves conceptually. So, the key is to help people build their self-esteem. This is an important employee retention and employee motivation discipline.

You cannot motivate another person to do anything. We all know we could only accomplish so much on our own and that everyone is a product of their environment. You have the opportunity to create the environment.

You can only provide the means and the atmosphere in which others motivate themselves. You are the leader and you must set the example by demonstrating appropriate behaviors. Take the time to define the appropriate behaviors you want to see in your employees, then start demonstrating them. This is an important employee retention and employee motivation discipline.

By bringing all employees together in a room for a meeting you create a team environment. By including them and sharing information with them, you are giving your employees an opportunity to share your perspective.

With inclusion, you are indirectly empowering them to contribute to the success of your whole operation, because it gives them a chance to see and understand the bigger picture. This in turn leads to them taking initiative and improving things in their own area of responsibility, particularly if they are recognized for it.

By sharing the results of the period with them and asking them what went well and what areas could use some improvement, you are obtaining a wealth of information, and including them in the overall success of your operation.

What do you think will happen when it comes time to implement some of their suggestions? Do you think they will object, or, do you think they might take ownership in implementing them beyond your expectations?

This is an important employee retention and employee motivation discipline.

What about personal problems, do you take the time to listen, to understand, to show you care?

Personal problems often interfere with work performance. Take the time to help your employee with their personal problems. Coach them to look for solutions and they will feel closer to you. In turn, they will perform better because you showed you care.

People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care. This is an important employee retention and employee motivation discipline.

From this point on you will notice that employees will go out of their way to do a great job, because you took the time to include them, empower them, to thank them and to show them that you care. This is an important employee retention and employee motivation discipline.

The Bottom Line: Actions that get recognized or rewarded get repeated. Are you demonstrating appropriate behaviours in your employee retention and employee motivation strategies?

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Bob Urichuck is an International Speaker, Trainer and Best-Selling Author. Learn personally from Bob in the areas of Sales, Motivation, Leadership and Team Skills. Bob presents a series of great ideas and strategies with combination of facts, humor, and practical concept in a high-energy and self-discovery process that you can apply right away to achieve results. Subscribe to Bob's Free Newsletter, worth $297, visit http://www.BobU.com Now!

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Stressed at Work? Try STOP.

2008-06-01T15:00:00.001-07:00

You’re beginning to have a panic attack at work — your breathing is strained, your chest is tight, and sweat is beading on your brow. You feel confused, scattered, your energy splintered in a million directions. Before you know it, you’ve misplaced a vital document which is needed at an upcoming meeting, had a disagreeable exchange with your boss, and snapped at someone you love on the phone. You seem to have lost your presence of mind, you feel disconnected to your body, and everything you do seems to be a brittle reaction to the challenges of your day.

At such moments — and we all have them — a simple exercise in awareness can totally shift the energy and change your perspective. STOP is a four-part exercise that anyone can do at any time. It takes about one minute to complete. It goes like this:

(S)top. Stop what you are doing — if you’re reaching for the phone to call someone, stop. If you’re about to walk down the hall, just stop. If you’re reading a report, put it down. Just stop whatever it is that you’re doing.

(T)ake a breath. If it feels comfortable, gently allow the eyes to close. Then follow your breath at the abdomen as it enters the body and as it leaves — breathing in and knowing that you’re breathing in, and breathing out and knowing that you’re breathing out. Do this for 30 seconds without trying to do anything else. Just breathe.

(O)bserve. Observe exactly how you are in this moment — notice how the breath is, whether it’s tight or open, long or short, notice whatever physical sensations are most predominant, and notice what emotions might be present. It’s very helpful to name the sensations and emotions — you can silently say to yourself, “tightness,” “tense,” or “anxiety,” “anger”, “frustration,” etc. Whatever is present is totally okay — don’t judge the experience, just acknowledge it honestly and with an attitude of kindness towards yourself.

(P)roceed. Now that you’ve acknowledged with complete honesty how your are in this moment, you have instantly reconnected yourself to the present moment, and body and mind have a closer connection. You feel more space surrounding your difficulties, and you are ready to face the next moment with more awareness, authenticity and effectiveness.

When we cultivate an attitude of spaciousness around our stress, we become free of the habitual thought patterns and emotional turmoil that trap us in negative reactivity — by simply acknowledging how we are and tuning in to the breath and body, we are aligning ourselves with a wider perspective that lets us relax our grip. With that broader perspective, we are also able to make wiser choices about how to respond — rather than react — to the challenges of the day. And the beauty of STOP is that you can do it throughout the day, whenever you notice stress building up or your presence of mind has diminished.

William Scheinman is a mindfulness meditation trainer and co-founder of Stress Reduction At Work, which provides mindfulness training at company worksites. www.stressseductionatwork.com.

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Personal Leadership

2008-06-01T15:00:00.000-07:00

For me, leadership is personal. It starts with the individual. Each person brings who they are to the task of leading. If you are a leader or aspire to leadership, I ask you: Is all well in your world? Are you happy? Are you operating at maximum efficiency? If your answer is "yes," then the world is a better place. Personal leadership is about management of self. You start with you, so that you can effectively lead others.

We have all seen leaders who are not managing their life very well. They are leading, but they are not giving their best. Their leadership skills suffer. We have also seen leaders at the top of their game, who manage their lives well. Their leadership skills thrive and those around them are inspired.

Here are some elements of personal leadership:

Balance

Balance is a state of equilibrium among the various demands of your life. Balance is dynamic as opposed to static. For the most part, you are constantly making adjustments, sometimes minor sometimes major, to achieve balance. Maintaining balance allows you to function effectively and productively as you lead.

Fulfillment

Fulfillment comes when you are living the life you want to live. You are able to give your all and be energized by your work. Your being and your work are a match. Your work flows and what you need comes to you. You are aligned with your destiny.

A Positive Relationship with Time

For years, management consultants and self-improvement experts have advised you to "manage" time. Planners, organizers and linear structures are useful, but in reality there is too much information and too many demands on your time to properly manage them. Time cannot be managed, you have to manage yourself.

Focus

Focus allows you to channel your energies to create the life you want. Without focus, things do not happen. Creating focus begins with identifying the top priorities in your life. Once your priorities are identified, spend your time honoring those priorities and getting them done.

Confidence

Confidence attracts people. As a leader if you project self-confidence, people will want to follow you. Confidence involves self-knowledge and appropriate humility. A lack of confidence belies problems that sabotage your personal leadership.

How are you doing with your personal leadership? Here are some things you can do to build your personal leadership skills.

CONDUCT A PERSONAL LEADERSHIP ASSESSMENT

Ask yourself the questions below. Analyze your answers to help you determine how you are doing and if there are any areas you need to work on.

Are there "energy drains" you would like to eliminate from your life?

Is your life in balance?

Do you choose what the components of your life will be?

Do you focus on priorities?

Are there elements of your life that are not fulfilling?

Do you live in the present moment?

How is your relationship with time?

Are your relationships and friendships supportive and fulfilling?

Do you like the way you present yourself to the world?

Are you maximizing your impact, using all you are?

Are you healthy?

Are there any fears that have gotten the better of you?

Are you speaking your true voice?

OBSERVE EFFECTIVE LEADERS

The power of observation cannot be discounted. Identify several people that you think are effective leaders. Turn the lens of your observing from how they lead to how they manage their life. Read about them. If you have the opportunity, interview them. For each person you observe, do your best to determine how their self-management affects their ability to lead. From this observation identify your key learnings about personal leadership and how you will apply them to your life.

CREATE FOCUS

Identify the top three things you want to focus on in your life. For each thing, identify what you need to do over the next year to achieve it. Set a plan.

ELIMINATE IMPEDIMENTS

What is holding you back from being the best you can be? Answer this question and let go of what no longer serves you.

Your external leadership skills need a strong foundation within. Personal leadership can provide that foundation. Change within will lead to change without.

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Ann Vanino is a business coach, consultant and trainer who specializes in helping people find fulfillment at work. Ann's book, Leadership on Trial: Lessons from The Apprentice offers leadership lessons from the popular TV show. You can learn more about Ann and her work at http://www.MovingForward.net . You can reach Ann at E-mail: Ann@MovingForward.net or Phone: 661-944-6329 (US.)

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Finding Strategies for Self Development

2008-05-29T15:00:00.006-07:00

Finding strategies for self-development depends on the person that is working on development skills. First, this person needs to learn something about self to discover which strategies fits his or her style. Using guides, plans, and other helpful aids, which you can find on the Internet, as well as developing a positive attitude you can find strategies that work for you easier.

When you are looking for new strategies to build your development skills know yourself and why you want to make constructive changes in your life. When you develop your positive attitude, the process of finding strategies for self-development is easier. Setting goals will help you with finding new strategies for self-development skills too.

What do I need to consider, to, develop a positive attitude?

Inability to manage stress is the number one cause of failure. The world is turning at such a fast pace causing our schedules to be jammed packed often we begin to lose hope. When we lose hope, it causes us to feel overwhelmed with stress, which causes other problems.

Stress will rob us of energy we need to find strategies useful for self-development. Stress can lead to depression. When we feel stressed, it hinders our ability to focus. Focus is important when you seek strategies for self-development.

Jump in and explore your inner feelings to find the strategies you are looking for to build self-development skills. Find new ways to increase energy and to make good constructive changes. Search for strategies that will help to keep depression from taking over so you can stay in control of your life.

Use positive thinking for exploring your feelings to make good decisions. Positive thinking is one strategy that you can use to relieve stress. When you think positive, it makes it easier to set goals.

Goals give you motivation to find the right strategy in making changes. By setting goals and writing your plans on paper it brings stressors into the view for better success. Once you begin to see the stressors, it becomes more real to let you decide how you can change your habits to lessen the stress. Relieve stress by learning to thrive on stress and by minimizing stressors. You will have found a new strategy to keep depression where it belongs; and keep overwhelming stress out of your life.

How do I find ways to relieve stress?

An exercise plan will help you relieve stress and is a good strategy for building self-development. When you create plans to back your goals, it helps you to see your way to choosing strategies befitting of you.

How do I find self-development strategy points?

The Internet is a good place to learn about new strategies for self-development. Use what is available out in the fast world to help thrive and relieve stress. Go on the Internet and search for thriving on stress, self-development skills and new strategies, you will find many articles to give you pointers.

Your local library has books to read on how you can build up self-development. Reading alone is a strategy that can guide you with new strategy skills and relieve of stress at the same time. Building up your vocabulary and knowledge will help when making good constructive changes for a better life, since you build awareness.

As your energy increases when building self-development skills you will be making better decisions on how to manage your life and keep depression where it belongs. Find the strategy in self-development today by thinking positive and using your resources for a guide. You will be glad you found new strategies for self-development skills. Building strategies is a great start for self-development achievements.

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Stress Management & Stress Reduction Training

2008-05-29T15:00:00.003-07:00

Stress is a misdemeanor waiting to happen. Stress will wear heavy on your nerves when it builds up, causing you to feel depressed. You may start to develop unnatural health issues that seem to have no justifiable cause for its development. This can lead to problems, which is why you want a guide to thriving on stress. You can avoid many problems by taking action instead of letting stress get you down.

How can I learn to be stress free?

In order to be stress free you have to work at it, it will not come to you over night. It takes time to train your brain to deal with stress. Stress is very bad for you so if you can learn to be stress free you will be better off in the long ran. There are many ways to train you brain to get rid of the stress.

What are some of the things I can do to train my brain to be stress free?

You have to decide what you may want to try first and see what will work for you. Some people may like to read, which is good for you to be lose in times with a good book. Others like to just walk or even work out. Working out is a good way to get rid of stress so if your stress you are doing something healthy for your body. It will take time to train your self for doing what you body wants to do when it is stressed. Some of us eat until we can’t eat any more when others can’t eat at all. Which in a way is good for you if you didn’t eat? Then you might be able to lose some of those unwanted pounds that have had you in for.

How long does training take?

When trying to train your brain it could take some time and effort, it’s not going to happen over night by no means. Some people it may not take long at all, they may have what it’s takes to over come stress. Therefore, with some work and time you may be on the right path to a healthier you.

What do I have to do to get started?

Well in order to get started you need to see what you want to do first when it comes to training your brain. If you like to read then you might what to get a book just for then you are in stress to get lost in. you can get books anywhere, your local library, maybe your local food market has reading items as well. For those who like to work out you might want to get a membership at your local gym. Only use it to get rid of the stress you may have from your job or even your children. Then there are some who just like to walk will that is a good way to get rid of the stress, as well as get in sharp.

Stress can be good for you as well, if you can learn to control it. Why is this, well for starters if you learn to train your brain to do-good things, then you will stay healthy as well as be stress free? In other ways if it wasn’t for the stress in your life you would more than likely stay on the sofa and not even do any thing about it. Now you want to learn to do something about it so this is a good thing for you.

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2008-05-29T15:00:00.002-07:00

Overcoming Discouragement

2008-05-29T15:00:00.001-07:00

Dean Forrest was 33 years old and had five children when the accident happened. He would later become my father-in-law.

In 1963, Dean was involved in a very serious accident at work involving liquid ammonia. He saved two of his co-workers, but was badly burned. He spent the next two years in and out of the hospital and contracted pneumonia 18 times.

Finally, in 1965, he was told to move to a dryer climate, but the Doctor warned my future mother-in-law to be prepared. He told her that Dean would only last about 6 months, maybe a year at the most.

So in 1965, the family moved from Columbus, Ohio to Roswell, New Mexico - Dean, his wife Nancy, and five children, ages twelve and under. He had lost his job and his income. He had lost his house. His insurance was canceled. The company he worked for, Borden's Ice Cream, did agree to pay all related medical costs. However, the compensation they decided to give Dean was less $200 a month, and they never increased it.

He had lost 70% of his lung capacity and was hanging on for dear life! But, he had a determined mindset and said, "God is not going to allow me to die; I need to raise these five kids." He did indeed raise those five kids, and in fact had two more! The doctors gave Dean six more months to live. God gave him 42 more years!

Those 42 years were not easy. During that time he got pneumonia over 60 times. He had a heart attack. He broke some bones in an accident. And, of course, he had to deal with all the other sickness stuff that everyone deals with from time to time.

When most men would have given up and quit, he never did. And the remarkable thing about Dean is that he never whined and complained or wanted people to feel sorry for him. Instead, over time, he gradually increased his physical strength and supported his family the best that he could.

Despite all the obstacles against him, and despite being tempted to give up and quit, which many would say that he had every right to do, he did not quit or give up.

For many years, I used to say that if someone is complaining about how tough things are in their life, they should go talk to my father-in-law. He was sure a great example of not complaining, but finding a way to move forward despite any obstacles.

Dean just refused to complain. And every time I visited him, he just amazed me. Once he told me, "You know, I think they're running out of ways to kill me." Several months before he died, he told me, "You know, all things considered, I've had a good life." Dean chose to live life.

We all get discouraged from time to time. Things are just not going right; we feel like we've tried and tried and still we cannot see a breakthrough, and so we get discouraged. And when you are discouraged, it is very, very easy to complain.

The biggest key I know in overcoming discouragement is to stop complaining. Now I know that can be difficult in those trying times, but have you ever considered that complaining is a total waste of your valuable time? It will never change your circumstances. Complaining just keeps you right where you are.

What you focus on is what you will attract into your life. This truth has been written about for centuries. It is the way the Creator designed our brains to function. A number of different names describe it. But, whatever you decide to call it, don't ignore it!

When someone complains they are focusing their thoughts and attention on what they either don't like or don't want in their life. In doing so, they may many times get sympathy from others. But how does sympathy from others help to change your situation? It doesn't! So stop throwing a "pity party!"

Have you ever noticed that for people who complain all the time, their circumstances and situations never improve? That's because all their time, energy and mental focus is on their problems. And they will continue attracting into their lives what they are focusing on.

The verse from the Bible that so many have quoted over the years states it quite clearly: "As he thinks in his heart, so is he."

Try this simple exercise. Sit down with pen and paper and write out all the things you are thankful for. You can start by being thankful you are alive!

You woke up this morning! My father-in-law was at a point where it took all his strength and energy to just move from one chair to the next, but he was thankful that he was alive!

We all have so much to be grateful for. Make some time and just start listing all the things you have to be thankful for today! And I'm not talking about the guilt method. You know the drill; well, my life is a lot better than other people in the world, so I guess I better be thankful. No!

I'm talking about looking at your life and seeing all the things you have right now that you can be grateful for.

And then remember that complaining is just a waste of your time. It will never bring a solution, only more problems. Why? Because the Creator designed your brain so that what you focus on is what you will bring into your life.

Instead of focusing on how bad the problems are, focus your mind and attention on getting to the solutions! Isn't that what you want to bring into your life? Focus you mind and attention on finding those solutions!

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Listen to one of Michael A. Verdicchio's Pep Talks at http://www.MikesPepTalks.com/christians2free.html

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Michael is a husband, father, minister, author, and broadcaster. He has been the voice on numerous productions over the years.

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Stop Drinking Now .. The Symptoms of Withdrawing From Alcohol

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When you stop drinking your body needs time to readjust. This section contains information about what to expect.

Most people can come off alcohol quite safely at home. However, if you are ever worried about what is happening or have had a bad experience in the past, you should contact your doctor or local community alcohol team. There is no virtue in punishing yourself with bad withdrawals.

Generally the first three days are probably the worst of what you will experience. It is not uncommon to feel anxious, irritable and restless and you may even have flu-like symptoms. Please do not give up; in a week to ten days you will feel much better.

It is important to maintain those things your body has become accustomed to such as sugar. Alcohol has a high sugar content and it is necessary to replace this for the first few days. You can do this by drinking fruit juice.

Alcohol disturbs your natural sleep patterns; if you can't sleep or wake after just a few hours, don't worry - this is quite normal and will right itself after a few weeks. Try learning some relaxation exercises.

As the days go by, you will find old interests returning. Allow yourself to enjoy them. Watch TV as much as you like and try to get some exercise. Give yourself some small objectives that you know are achievable. If you want to give up smoking - do something about it at a later date - one thing at a time.

A good support network is essential. Talk to people who are close to you and explain what you are feeling. If they appear to lack faith in you don't be upset - they undoubtedly will need time to adjust just like you.

Stopping drinking will not solve all the problems that caused you to drink in the first place. Do not fall in to the trap of trying to tackle them all right away. After a while you will be in a better position to put your problems in to the proper perspective and can then begin to talk to someone like a counselor.

Beware of setting yourself up to drink again. Prepare in your mind what you will say if someone offers you a drink. And don't forget, one drink will always lead to another. It is best to simply stop altogether.

It is not easy giving up alcohol, but by taking things slowly - one day at a time as AA puts it - and being realistic, you will succeed.

Discover how to Stop Drinking Alcohol In 21 Days - Guaranteed by expert Ed Philips and find further guidance here to help you Stop Drinking Alcohol.

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Write Your Goals And Make Them Plain In Eight Steps

2008-05-28T15:00:00.009-07:00

All success mentoring experts are in agreement that in order to achieve your goals you first need to get them down on paper so that you can make them plain and clear.

"If you don?t know where you?re going," wrote George Harrison, "any road will take you there".

If you don't set clear goals you "won't get nowhere" - true: but the somewhere you get to could be anywhere, which is rather like "getting nowhere fast" - or even "getting nowhere slow", depending on your pace!

On the other hand, Emerson observed that,

"The world makes way for the man who knows where he is going."

I love the first four words of that quotation: "THE WORLD MAKES WAY..." If you have a clear goal and a strong will, the world becomes pliable to your intention. That is an amazing and empowering thought if ever there was one!

In short, you have far more chance of realizing your dreams if you first set clear goals. You have to "write your vision and make it plain" - and here is my recommended procedure for doing so:

1. First of all, fix in your mind a clear picture of what you want. A vague idea lacks vigour and is of little value. Write down exactly what you want.

For example, don't just write, "I want a new house", but instead write "I want a stone-built, detached house with six bedrooms, set in two acres of land in the Yorkshire Dales, England. (They don't come cheap, by the way!) You will find the process is much more fun when you are particular and write everything down than when you just have a vague notion in your head somewhere!

2. Once you are sure that you know what it is you that you want, whether it is a physical object or some other goal, it is time to make your vision plain.

Visualize it, touch it, hear it, go suck it even, if that helps!! Imagine moving into your new house, smelling the fresh Yorkshire air, the wind and the rain(!), and hear the sheep bleating in the dales and hills.

3. Make your goal such that you can measure your progress and know when you have achieved it. How will you know when you have achieved it? In this case, owning a new house is easy - you?ll know you?ve achieved it when you?ve moved in!

However, if your goal is a vague one such as to "succeed in business", it won't be so easy to measure. You need to define what you mean by successful. How much money will you be making? How many new customers will it take to make that much extra money? Be specific.

This is a vital step because you need to know exactly what you are aiming for. Also, a clear vision is more motivating because it gives you something definite to work towards.

4. Make sure you are pursuing a goal that is realistic and achievable. I don't mean that you should lower your sights. Think big; set goals that challenge you, but in order to reach a distant destination you will need to set up a series of milestones, minor goals that you know you can achieve.

Each time you reach one of your goals it will give you greater confidence to keep on keeping on towards the bigger goals that lie ahead until you get to the place you set out to go to...

5. Next, place your goal within a clear timeframe. If you don?t do this you will not be motivated to take the necessary action TODAY and every day. Goals that start with "One day I want to..." simply won?t work because "some day" is never TODAY!

Some people don?t like setting timeframes because they are worried about missing the mark. However, the point is to give your vision a sense of urgency to get you moving towards your goal.

If you don?t hit the date quite on time this does not matter as long as you are getting there - and you?ll be getting there a lot quicker if you have a sense of urgency generated by a target date.

6. You'll like this one! Think about how you'll reward yourself when you reach your milestones and ultimately, your goal. It is good to treat yourself each time you achieve a goal. It will also fire you up to achieve yet more and give you the motivation you need to go for yet bigger goals.

7. Write down all the steps you must take to reach your milestones and your goal and work out when you need to get them done, then put these target dates in your diary. Refer to them every day and stick to them!

8. Finally, write a concise statement of your goal that encapsulates the vision and the time frame. Write it in the present tense to make it real.

For example: "By September 30th 2010, I am living in a $950,000 stone-built detached house that is set in two acres of land in the Yorkshire Dales. I can hear the sheep bleating and the shepherd whistling to his sheep dog while I reward myself by relaxing over a bottle of wine in my beautiful English garden."

And if that is what you really want, the act of writing it out so clearly should be enjoyable and fill you with the motivation and inspiration to achieve it.

Look over your goals each day and implement the steps that you wrote down in your statement. As you progress towards your goal you might want to make some changes and modifications as your priorities and perspectives change. That is fine.

The main thing is that you have written down your vision and made it plain; now the world can do nothing but MAKE WAY for you to achieve your goal.

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David Hurley is an Internet marketer who is based in Japan and is the owner of http://grasp-the-nettle.com, which focuses on success mentoring for Internet marketing start-ups.

Get your own work-from-home Internet business set up free and find out how you can build an online business and master the net.

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Organic Consulting - A Way to Give Your Clients Maximum Value

2008-05-28T15:00:00.008-07:00

Too often, consultants fail to give their clients maximum value. They bring pre-packaged knowledge and approaches to unique situations. Many consultants believe their value lies in what they already know and being "expert." Organic Consulting is a consulting methodology that lets the work grow from what is. In Organic Consulting, the consultant becomes part of a bigger whole. As a result, both client and consultant are changed. Through this change, desired results are achieved.

What are the elements of Organic Consulting?

Becoming Part of the Whole

As you, the consultant, are hired by an organization, you become part of it. You are no longer independent of each other and have both changed. In some ways, you have created a new ecosystem. To prepare for your work, thoroughly understand the organization you are working for - its values, mission, people, strengths and weaknesses. Ascertain what their goals and expectations are in hiring you. Make sure they get to know you - what perspective you bring to the table, how you work and what you can give them. Outline what it is you can do for the organization and how you will do it. Build into your outline periodic points where you will evaluate the changes that are taking place, whether you are adding value and if you are on track.

Giving Up The "One Size Fits All" Approach

ou cannot standardize Organic Consulting. Think about it, have you ever consulted for a client that is exactly like one you have worked for before? Replace "one size fits all" with "one size fits only you". Tailor your approach for each client. Many consulting firms use the "one size fits all" approach to streamline their activities, use less experienced people or to maximize profit by using the same approach over and over again. It doesn't work and clients know it. In Organic Consulting, streamlining takes a different tack. You bring your knowledge, experiences and tools to each situation and let the alchemy take place. It can be as effortless and will provide a better result.

Working With What Is

Do not try to change your client at the outset. Begin with what is. It is the only place to start. Otherwise, you are on a false foundation. By analyzing what is you can build, correct and supplement where it is needed. You can identify the changes needed and work with your client to implement them. By doing this you may find solutions you have not thought of yet. Let the organization's current reality inform your work and where you go. Your aspirations and the value you will add are not limited by what is; they are informed by it. The challenge lies in the reshaping.

Keeping Fluidity

Do not come to your work with rigidity or preconceptions. Organic Consulting unfolds. As your consulting progresses, new information may surface, the alchemy that was created may stir things up or the organization may respond in unexpected ways. That is all okay. Take what happens and let it inform you. This is how real change occurs and high value is given. You cannot control the process of Organic Consulting. As changes occur, notice them and fold them into your work. The end result is a changed organization - changed by the introduction of you and the resulting evolution.

Accepting The Results

Many consultants derive comfort by "knowing" the outcome they will achieve before they begin. Organic Consulting precludes this. It is the introduction of you into the existing system that begins the process and it is not predictable. Your results may seem imperfect, but they are real. In that sense, they are perfect. Your work may uncover flaws that were previously hidden, new information as yet unknown or new pathways leading to greater success. That is the goal of Organic Consulting - change that works, adds value and creates.

My work as a management consultant has informed my approach. Organic Consulting works for me and delivers maximum value to my clients by addressing their reality, bringing my skills and perceptions to the table and creating positive change together.

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Ann Vanino is a career coach and business consultant and owner of Moving Forward Coaching & Consulting. You can learn more about Ann on her web site http://www.MovingForward.net . She writes The Leadership Blog at http://www.movingforward.net/wp . You can reach Ann by e mail at Ann@MovingForward.net and by phone at 661-944-6329 (US).

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Law of Attraction: How to Detach Yourself from the Outcome of Your Desires

2008-05-28T15:00:00.007-07:00

Copyright (c) 2008 Rebecca Hanson

I don't know why, but it seems we trip over the "allowing" part of the Deliberate Attraction formula more often than the other two parts. The Deliberate Attraction formula gives us a simple description of how to leverage the Law of Attraction so we can attract more of what we DO want and enjoy. The three steps are simply:

1) Become very clear about what you DO want.

2) Raise your internal vibration, through removing doubts and fears, so you are a vibrational match for your desire.

3) Allow your desire to come to you.

Much has been written already about the first two steps. But how do we "allow" -- what do we need to do to actually receive what we so clearly desire, yet do not have?

Recently, I had a nice experience of what it feels like to "allow." I've been noticing that my office wastebasket is inadequate and it spills over too often. It is just a little eight-inch sea-grass basket and it barely holds two days worth of opened envelopes and crumpled paper. After months of mentally complaining about its lack of capacity, I finally asked myself, "So, what kind of wastebasket would I like?"

I began to imagine a sleek, black, matte finish wastebasket about 15 inches high with a 12 inch diameter top, and tapered at the bottom. Yes, that would be adequate for a week's worth of trash from my office and it would look professional alongside my other black office accessories.

Next I collected data on possible wastebaskets. For about a week, every time I entered a building that might have my ideal wastebasket, I looked for it. I found step-on aluminum cans -- no, I didn't want to step on anything. I found black plastic trash bins with swivel lids -- no, I didn't want a swivel lid -- I wanted an open receptacle so I can toss paper into it. I found black trash cans on wheels, but they were too industrial looking. I found ceramic pots that were almost right, but they were too heavy to empty out. I was noticing the price range went from $18.99 to $49.99.

Finally, I let it go. I told myself, "The right one will show up." And it did.

I was at the Hudson Bay Store, here in Victoria, BC, making a purchase when I decided to cash-in some of my "Reward Points" for a gift certificate. I had NEVER thought about cashing-in Reward Points before- - it had never occurred to me to do so. I took the elevator to the fifth floor and while a delightful young lady at the Reward Counter prepared my gift certificate, my eye scanned across the isle. There I noticed A BLACK WASTEBASKET, just the size and shape I had pictured in my imagination. With gift card in hand, I swiftly crossed the isle and lifted the basket. "Ah, it is made of felt-board and is very lightweight. Matte black finish with nail-head trim. About 14 inches high and 12 inches in diameter and tapered at the bottom. Very professional looking." I turned the basket upside-down to read the price: "$16.99." Very good! With my gift certificate in hand I proceeded to the checkout stand. When the clerk scanned the price, she gasped and asked me, "How much do you think this costs?"

"Well, the sticker says '$16.99'."

She was shaking her head in disbelief as she replied, "It's on sale for $5.00."

"Five dollars?" I asked, in complete surprise.

"Five dollars," she repeated.

"I'll pay cash and save my gift certificate!"

Can you imagine the joy I felt at that moment? Not only was the price right, but the manner in which my exact desire had come to me was absolutely delicious!

"Allowing" is simply the old adage: "Let go, and let God." It's "detachment from the outcome." More like "detachment from forcing something to happen."

Allowing is truly letting the Law of Attraction bring your desire into your sphere in its own time, place and manner. Allowing doesn't mean getting second best. It means allowing the Law of Attraction to bring your exact desire in the BEST way possible.

Is there something you are not allowing through trying to make it happen or by wanting it a certain way or at a certain time? Let it go. Believe that the Law of Attraction WILL bring it to you in the perfect time and the perfect way. Believe it because that IS the law.

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Rebecca Hanson is the Founder of the Law of Attraction Training Center. She is a natural teacher and mentor to students from around the world. Learn how you can apply the Law of Attraction to have a fuller more enriching life through the 65-hour audio course, Certified Law of Attraction Practitioners' Program, Learn about the next teleclass offered in "A Year of Miracles," with Rebecca Hanson at LawofAttractionCatalog.com.

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Discover How Easy It Can Be To Hypnotize Minds

2008-05-28T15:00:00.006-07:00

There are more and more people interested in how to hypnotize minds. What puzzles most people is that they actually have the ability and they may be using that ability without even knowing it. Hypnosis, although it is a science all to itself, is simply a way of focusing the mind and achieving a relaxed state so that an individual is more open to suggestion. The hypnotherapist is simply the individual that helps someone to get to the state, either through the use of a calm voice, mental images or both.

Many great books have been written on how to hypnotize minds by various authors. People who read and learn from these books actually attain a high level of success with hypnosis. In most cases, the people who learn hypnosis do not do so to open their own psychological or medical practice. They are more likely to use it as a sort of bar room hypnosis in which they might hypnotize people as a group in almost a parlor trick type of fashion.

If an individual wanted to learn how to hypnotize minds professionally, they can do so by learning at one of the qualified hypnotherapist schools that are available. These schools will show you how to hypnotize people and also have the power to issue certifications once your training is complete. You can then take this certification and begin practicing hypnosis in your own business. Most people who are qualified hypnotherapists use the practice in order to help people to overcome problems such as addictions or to deal with pain that they feel as a result of illness or injury.

There is another way that individuals hypnotize minds and that is through a technique known as covert or conversational hypnosis. This technique is used by many who are in sales or personal settings in order to steer an individuals thoughts unbeknownst to them. There are many people who study this skill their entire lives. To put it simply though, covert or conversational hypnosis is utilized by building a rapport with someone and then using that rapport to open the person's mind to suggestion. Upon building rapport or trust, they will steer the person in a way that gently nudges them in the exact direction that satisfies their objective.

With many different ways to hypnotize people, each individual will have their own. In most cases they will use the technique they learned in the first place when performing hypnosis. For the most part, it is done by soothing the person and putting them in a relaxed state in the way that you speak and by giving them mental images. A hypnotherapist may also utilize these pictures or images to have more of an effect while a person is under. There are individuals who use self hypnosis in an attempt to help themselves. These people do this through relaxation techniques with the help of hypnosis CD's and DVD's. All in all, hypnosis can be learned by anyone with a desire and the right course.

Go now to www.TranquilHypnosis.com to learn how you can hypnotize minds like a pro. Shane Wilson is a successful webmaster at TranquilHypnosis.com where he further provides articles and information on the subject of hypnosis. Stop by today for more information.

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Do You Drag Your Past Into Your Future?

2008-05-28T15:00:00.005-07:00

Are you one of those people who spend your present dwelling on the past? The past is becoming too important to you. You're avoiding the present, emphasizing past failures, indulge in guilt. None of this living with past hurts or what you perceive to be an insult is helpful. Evening the score isn't helpful either, because it is permitting the past to dictate the future.

The present, the now, the in-the-moment, gets lost. The present is mostly used as a reminder of past injuries or failures. You then react to things that occur to you in the present as if you were in the past. If you're thinking about things "past" in your mind, that past can then dictate your reactions here in the present.

When your thinking is about the past, that is your point of reference, and whoever you're dealing with has a big problem because you're not seeing or hearing him accurately. Instead, you're hearing echoes from the past. Those echoes carry pain in your mind and justify your attacks in the present in return for a past no one else sees and for whom it doesn't exist. Do you see how the past can dictate your future? Think of all the opportunities you could be missing out on.

Here's an example of something that happened to me just a few months ago. My family decided to meet at a small, local Italian restaurant to eat dinner. We went in separate cars and my younger daughter was in my car with me.

Just as each of you has done hundreds of times, we were making small talk, and were pretty much oblivious to everything around us. As we parked the car, a minivan zoomed into the parking space next to mine, slammed on his brakes, got out and started walking toward the restaurant. He parked so close to my car I literally could not get out of the car. I quickly asked him to move the car before he went into the restaurant since I couldn't get out the driver's door. I said it nice, honest. (I remember I wanted to be a smart aleck about it, but I held back).

He stalked back to his car, yelled something to me about it wouldn't have been so tight if I had parked in the space correctly then, as he pulled away his side view mirror hit my mirror and he zoomed back into the parking spot. Now I wanted to knock him out. My daughter, sweet little thing that she is, was encouraging me to knock him out. But I'm too old to be fighting. I'm a lover, not a fighter, or at least I hope so. We walked into the restaurant and, of course, we told the rest of the family what happened. Ironically, they knew who we were talking about because they saw him storm into the restaurant and, in their words "He was nasty to his wife."

It's a harmless example, but the point is that he was obviously living in the past. I'm not sure what had caused him to become angry. His past almost dictated an ass whipping. (I am bigger than he is.)

That's just an example to get you to look at your own situation so you don't make mistakes like that. Think of the times when you overreacted because your son left dirty underwear on the floor or your daughter left wet towels on the bathroom floor. You are reacting to something he's done in the past perhaps dozens of times and that something was upsetting to you.

If he had left his underwear on the floor dozens of times before, then you have to improve your parenting skills. You might be yelling at him about it, but there have obviously not been any consequences for it. Kids respond marvelously to consequences.

Let me give you another perspective. There's a company called The Landmark Corporation which does a wonderful job of teaching people different techniques for avoiding problems like this. They will tell you that when you have a conversation with someone, you should come from nothing.

When I first heard them talking about communicating from nothing I thought, "Whoa, I'm paying for this?" Then I started to get it and I hope, in light of the above discussion, it makes sense to you. Come from nothing. In other words, don't assume anything and don't bring past history into this current episode. This is not easy to do, but once you get the hang of it, you'd be amazed at how much you were missing. We usually go into conversations with an agenda or a prejudice - some point we want to make, or information we want to get.

Try having a conversation with someone without trying to be right, without an agenda, without assuming you know what they want. In the beginning, you won't be able to do this easily, but if you'll just try it in one conversation, you'll sense the difference immediately as something very positive. And then you can do it more and more often. Once you get it, it's the beginning of listening. It's also a big step toward giving up living in the past and living in the present. Once you can let go of perceived insults, when you live in the present, you get to create your future. The past is no longer dictating your future.

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Len Stauffenger's parents taught him life's simple wisdom. As a divorced dad, he wanted to share that simple wisdom with his girls. "Getting Over It: Wisdom for Divorced Parents," his book, is the solution. Len is an author, a Success Coach and an Attorney. http://www.wisdomfordivorcedparents.com

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Balance Your Work Week

2008-05-28T15:00:00.004-07:00

Ryan returned home from two weeks on the road. His meetings went exceptionally well, he made outstanding contacts, and sales exceeded even his expectations. Yet, he woke up the next morning feeling like something was missing. How could this be?

He decided to at least try to do what his coach had suggested, pull out his journal and explore his unclear feelings on paper. He soon discovered how out-of-balance he had become with this new job. He loved the job, the challenge, the people and the potential; however, it was taking more of a toll on him than he had realized.

As with each of us, balancing family, work, play, alone time, and social activities is Ryan's key to success. Is it possible to achieve this with Ryan's rapidly increasing timetable?

Ryan decided that the journaling worked once, why not go back and give it another try? He outlined what he considered to be a balanced week, including each of the above activities. He soon saw that when he wrote the details of his plan down instead of holding the thoughts inside his memory, it wasn't hard to accomplish.

Now he was on a roll. He further outlined who he wanted to see. He intended to contact one long lost friend or associate each day for the first week to schedule something, anything—a lunch meeting, an appointment, exercising at the gym or a trip somewhere. Placing it on the schedule would be enough to give him the sense of freedom that accompanies balance.

Now his week was set. He knew who he would contact and when. Ryan was surprised and delighted when each of the five names on his list connected with him that very same day. This is a true story. One of his distant relatives called to schedule a meal with him. A long lost friend called for a spur-of-the-moment dinner.

After Ryan wrote his plans down and made a commitment, all those plans were finalized by that day's end. It worked like clockwork. He was no longer surprised when the last person on his list e-mailed him around 4:00 p.m. to suggest a poker game with the gang.

Why did all of this come together so effortlessly for Ryan? Though it is not always this easy, the theory goes back to the bible: "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he." Proverbs 23:7. The problem is that each of us processes 60,000 thoughts a day. Merely thinking about something in the midst of so many competing thoughts is often not quite enough to make it happen.

Slowing down your mind to actually write your intentions down provides that extra edge. This activates both sides of the brain and encourages creativity, envisioning how this can come together. This deeper envisioning process generates a synergy that creates activity. I delight in seeing this over and over again in my executive coaching practice.

My clients move at a very fast pace, making huge, bold decisions quickly. While many balk at having to write their goals/intentions/dreams down, they are often amazed at having accomplished them a few short months later.

This week, follow in Ryan's footsteps. Pull out something you consider to be out of balance to write on, dream about what you want that you don't currently have, be very specific, and put it in writing. Have a great week and enjoy your discoveries.

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For the sake of keeping your career fresh and on track, would you like to enjoy a weekly shot-in-the-arm from Master Certified Coach Ann Golden Eglé? You can sign up for her free weekly ezine, The Success Thought of the Week, at http://www.gvsuccesscoaching.com .

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Your Mind Power Is The Product Of Your Goal-Seeking, Goal-Achieving Mind

2008-05-28T15:00:00.003-07:00

Any information that enters the domain of your goal-seeking, goal achieving mind that it recognizes as a goal, it is not going to question. It is simply going to materialize it for you.

Here is my take on how failure enters the picture. If you think you are giving your goal-seeking, goal-achieving mind one goal to achieve, but you do not get this goal past your self image and into your goal-seeking, goal-achieving mind, it is going to materialize something from the pre-set conditions or from another input source.

You hope for one thing but receive something else in your experience, probably the very opposite of what you want. You think that you have somehow failed in your attempt to reach a goal you hoped to reach. Repeat this scenario a few times and it is easy to see why you would allow yourself to grab onto the extremely detrimental but much popularized word "failure."

Your goal-seeking, goal-achieving mind is never going to take a goal of increased prosperity you have allowed into it and materialize more lack and limitation in your experience. That would be like asking corn seeds to produce tomatoes or asking peanut seeds to bring forth bananas!

Whatever is allowed into it, it simply accepts as directions from you that this is what you are telling it to materialize. Through unknown universal processes, it delivers it into your life.

Your part in this creative process is so very simple and at the same time, apparently very difficult. You are the director. It is up to you to give directions to your goal-seeking, goal-achieving mind as to what you want it to achieve for you! It is that simple. If you do not, someone else will.

There are some impediments to this simple operation, however, that we should explore.

The first of these blocks (stepping stones) is a lack of rudimentary knowledge of how the mind works.

The second impediment is a lack of an easy to use technique to definitively place your directions into the goal-seeking, goal achieving area of your mind.

The third barrier is a lack of understanding how your self image (ego, personality, map of reality, etc.) is formed and the tremendous amount of control it takes unto itself in cahoots with the conscious mind.

The fourth is a lack of easy to use techniques to break the stranglehold of your self image (ego, personality, map of reality, etc.) and claim or re-claim control of your mind.

See article "What Does Your Mind Power Have To Do With Your Financial Conditions?" for explanation of the conscious mind. See article "Mastering Your Mind Power – Your Number 1 Challenge!" for explanation of the major operations of the subconscious mind and the development of the self image.

Here is something I know for sure. You can claim or re-claim control of your own mind power. You are the most miraculous of all living beings on earth. You are the owner of a mind that is so stupendous, that as you truly begin mastering your mind power and consciously using it, there is no dream that you can dream that you cannot achieve.

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Leadership: Blend of all Positive Qualities

2008-05-28T15:00:00.002-07:00

The person is the real leader who understands others and helps them honestly in his own limitations. Leadership attributes may be different by individual, but understanding others is the first and foremost attribute of leadership of any kind. No any person can be a good leader without people support.

It is your leading attitude which determines your leadership duration. All your leading traits reflect that how you will direct your followers. Your leadership should bring together your followers to fulfill the same goals. It should have the capacity to inspire others for working towards the same goals. It needs to communicate with your followers to overcome difficulties coming in the goals. Any venture's success depends upon communication, cooperation between its leading man and the followers.

Nature of bringing others together is the base of your leadership which assist you in building trust among your followers. This trust should not command others. Your followers never want your autocracy. They want relationship with you based on mutual trust. It helps you in achieving excellence as well as in building your character as a good leader. Your leadership should consider others opinions before taking important decision or in setting goals.

Your leadership needs to be flexible towards changes. It means you have to consider changes in the organization with care and accept it without neglecting the main goals. Your leadership needs to motivate your followers. As a leader, you should have attitude of inspiring others. Your motivation and inspiration give a new direction to your followers about the changes in organization. It is your leadership which rebuilds the followers' confidence.

The constant motivating process of your leadership prepares them to take any risk. Sometimes you leadership needs to take decisions which involve risks. These decisions should be taken on fact basis and compatible with law. The followers sincerely respect their leader always if he is law abiding and confident.

Leadership should be confident in itself. It has to be determined in completing the goals of organization. As a leader, you have to fuel your followers with energy and make them realize with their responsibilities about the goals. This realization ultimately turns to work as a team. Moreover, your leadership should be able to supervise on working tasks. If mistakes are done by the followers, your leadership should be able to understand and train them with respect for avoiding further mistakes.

Your leadership requires stability of mind. Though your followers confuse on some incidents, you should not lose your stability of mind. Conversely, you have to take into account the whole situation and take proper steps. Because leader knows that there is a solution on every problem.

Many people want to be leader. It may be due to human nature of ruling on others. Being successful leader is not an easy task. It constantly demands self-examination, self-improvement. Your leadership should be in acceptance of your mistakes. It requires a broad mind to accept self mistakes.

In brief, your leadership should be blend of all positive qualities. The person, who has this blend in his personality, is certainly able to be a good leader.

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Leadership coaching is essential for maximum performance.

2008-05-28T15:00:00.001-07:00

Get your free Leadership Coaching ebook!

If you are responsible for one employee or hundreds, or just for yourself, leadership coaching may be the answer to how to handle any situation that arises.

A great tool that teaches you how to take care of anything that comes up can be found in a well written ebook by Richard Gorham.

This guide puts together lessons learned from dealing successfully with different sets of circumstances.

A different approach to a situation may be what you need to succeed in business and in life.

A good leader will have dozens of people who are willing to follow them to the ends of the earth. A leader who has no idea of what they are doing will not inspire anyone to follow them.

Teaching solid leadership principles to your employees is also a great way to help them deal with situations on their own that may seem to prevent them from accomplishing their goals.

A leader who understands that obstacles and challenges will arise is a leader who also knows how to get around these problems. Any obstacle that presents itself can be overcome by putting to use the lessons you learn from leadership coaching.

When employees see that you are not going to fall apart for every problem that comes along, you will instill a sense of confidence in your leadership abilities. They will be more apt to want to follow your lead to accomplish their own goals.

Everyone makes mistakes, however if you do not learn from your mistakes, you will continue to make them. This will affect your business and your personal life in a negative manner.

Leadership coaching is designed to help you realize that even if you make a mistake, it can be corrected. By learning what you can do to avoid repeating mistakes, you will be wiser and more able to handle the next situation that comes along.

Putting all this together in a guide that you can use on a daily basis is the goal of the Leadership Coaching ebook. If you use this ebook to learn some key techniques, you are sure to improve your overall effectiveness as a leader.

Have you ever wondered how someone who seemed to have everything against them managed to succeed and turn their life around? If so, think about this. They most likely had a specific plan and they used someone or something as a coach to help them reach the goal they had set for themselves.

Some of the most disadvantaged individuals have managed to make their way to the top by understanding that leadership required proper planning and determination.

You can be given a position of leadership but what you make of it is up to you. If you want people to follow and respect you and the decisions you make, you will have to earn their trust and confidence.

Leadership coaching is essential for teaching you how to do this in the right way. Examples of others who have gone through exactly what you are going through will help you to appreciate that you can make lemonade from lemons.

Every curve that you are thrown has been thrown before in one form or another. This ebook, which is available at Leadership-Tools.com, will be invaluable for helping you to learn how to make your life as successful as others have made theirs.

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Different Types of Furnace Filters And Air Conditioning

2008-05-28T15:00:00.000-07:00

The fact that many people fail to realize is that a regular upgradation of your furnace filter can significantly improve the quality of air inside your home, and that to in a fairly inexpensive manner. It might help us to know that, in a single day, an average person breathes in about 32,000 pints worth of air. Imagine the number of dust particles that go in to form those 32,000 pints! You would be shocked to know that there are around 1,120,000,000 dust particles, mostly 3 microns or smaller in size, floating around in the air that we are breathe everyday.

On the basis of studies conducted by the United States Environmental Protection Agency, it has been found that indoor air can be as much as two to five times more polluted than outdoor air. A number of things affect the quality of indoor air. Your air conditioning filter and your furnace filter are your primary defense against problems with air quality.

In order to create a healthy environment in our homes, clean air is the first and foremost need. So as to accomplish clean air, it is important to have an idea as to what are the basic constituents of an effective furnace filter or air conditioning filter. In all cases, the filter that best meets all of yours is ideal for your home. To quote an example, in case you have allergies, the ideal filter for you is one that traps tiny allergen particles, so that the air that you breathe is clean and pure.

A good filter is your first requirement to combat allergies. The Heating, Ventilation and Air Conditioning industry (HVAC) has a wide variety of different options to be explored, which can help you maintain good air quality within your home. Depending on your specific personal needs, you can go right ahead in selecting the right equipment, like a furnace filter, for your home.

Different types of furnace filters and air-conditioning filters like http://www.lawnmowersfact.com are available in the market. Out of this wide variety, the type of filter that you choose and install determines the level of its efficiency. With regard to filters, there are essentially six different categories that you can choose from. The results of these filters also vary from being extremely efficient to being less desirable, depending on its make and model.

Though there cannot be any ultimate answer about which filter to select, it is true that some tend to be an overall better option than others. It is essential that your individual needs and wants are effectively met. Each of the following types of furnace filters and air conditioning filters at http://www.hondageneratorstore.com has certain positive and negative characteristics:

- Electrostatic Air Filters

- Media Air Filters

- Pleated Air Filters

- HEPA Air Filters

- Activated Carbon Air Filters

Even in the case of furnace filters, you can choose from a wide range available. For optimum results in the long run, it is essential to understand how they work and select the one of high quality for the best performance.

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Babydoll Lingerie Is Exciting and Great for All Shapes and Sizes

2008-05-26T15:00:00.022-07:00

Baby doll lingerie has many exciting styles to pick from. The styles can vary from innocent and sweet to exciting and daring. You are really only limited by your taste. Most women (and men) appreciate how short baby doll lingerie is.

Generally, baby doll lingerie consists of some sort of very short dress, and there is often a set of matching panties or a thong. Lace baby doll lingerie is often see-through, which can add to the excitement. Stretchy lace can form fit to the body to create a super-sexy silhouette. This can be enhanced by adding a slightly padded or even an underwire bra top.

For a flirtier look, try a flouncy skirt on your baby doll lingerie. While a sheer baby doll dress can be really sexy, don't underestimate the effect of a sweet little cotton outfit. Remember that "sweet" can be just as seductive as "sexy." Again, the choice boils down to your style, and perhaps that of your partner. The most important aspect is to have fun with you choice.

While "baby doll" describes a certain type of lingerie, there are numerous cuts, styles, and details available. For those with narrower shoulders, a halter-style baby doll dress might be just the right choice. Another woman might prefer a little outfit with cap sleeves to cover her shoulders. For a little peek-a-boo, consider a style that includes fabric cutouts strategically placed on your body. You can also choose to show a little extra skin by purchasing baby doll lingerie that ties under the bust and falls open below to expose your torso.

When choosing your lingerie, the little details can make all the difference. Some women like rhinestones and sequins while other women may like the simpler approach of ribbons and bows. The fabric of baby doll lingerie makes a big difference in the style as well. If you are feeling very sexy, silk may be the way to go. If you are feeling young and flirty, then cotton would be your best pick. How does a black silk baby doll sound? How about a cotton yellow and pink polka dot baby doll with white ruffle trim? The possibilities are literally endless.

Does your man want to see you in a cheerleader baby doll lingerie outfit? Or does the school girl look float his boat? Shopping for baby doll lingerie with your partner can be just as exciting as wearing it in the bedroom. With all the different textures and colors, the palette of possibilities is never-ending. Just be sure to take into consideration your shape and personal style for the best effects.

Amanda Cotterill has been involved in the erotic lingerie uk market for many years. This article outlines the benefits of baby doll lingerie, as if that needed much explaining! Please include this credit if you use this article.

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When Nagging Gets In The Way

2008-05-26T15:00:00.021-07:00

Whether you are working with your partner, your teenage children or a work colleague the principle is the same. What you say and the way in which it is said, the tone of voice, the words you use and the timing of when things are said all have the capacity to widen the gap between you and the other person to let them off the hook as they can rationalize your nagging as unreasonable, or to make them think.

If you want things to be different you have to change old patterns of behaviour. Listening to yourself and understanding what that triggers in the other person is a vital step to creating a different future. This article uses the relationship between workaholics and their partners as the focus, but you can use the principles when dealing with any relationship.

Most partners of workaholics feel neglected; they see themselves taking second place to their partners work. Clients often describe how their partner will take the time and trouble to listen to a member of their staff far more readily than they do them or their children. “If they loved me enough they would want to spend time with me.” They make the assumption that it is lack of love which causes their partner to spend long hours away from them. Their frustrations and sense of loneliness take over and as soon as their partner gets home the frustrations spill over and they share how they are feeling and the recriminations begin.

Like so many of the strategies we use when we are feeling un-resourced it is incredibly unproductive. Despite the fact that the strategy rarely works, many partners (and parents) find they go into nag mode knowing it is destined to fail and make them feel bad into the bargain. Einstein’s definition of madness is to carry on doing the same thing even though we know it doesn’t work. Yet millions of us continue to behave in a set way long after we know it is failing. This is not about blaming. We do the best we can given the personal resources at our disposal. What we want to do is to help you feel you have a wider range of resources at your disposal and the choice when to use them.

To understand why it fails so often you need to take a step back and take a long hard look at what is really going on. Understanding what is actually happening can also give you the opportunity to behave differently.

Most workaholics are workaholics because of some deep seated need within themselves. Many are driven to succeed on terms which only they can define as they push themselves long after most people would feel highly successful. For some, it is the dread of failure rather than the pull of success which drives them. A poor sense of self worth developed in childhood, the need to feel significant by doing things for others, or having external verification of worth are all common reasons for people feeling more secure in their working life than in their personal life.

You know your partner well. Consider what is driving them? Think about the relationship they had with their parents, siblings or at school.

Partners will often respond disproportionately to a particular tone of voice or to being told that they have failed. It often hits a deep seated raw nerve which has been created during their formative years. The nagging becomes synonymous with a parent telling them how useless they are or a teacher or class bully belittling them.

Over the next few days just listen to yourself. Put yourself into the shoes of the other person and consider how you would respond.

Be honest with yourself, but be constructive. This is not about blaming. It is about seeing more clearly why things have gone wrong and doing your best to find a productive way forward for you and your partner. Finding a win – win solution is always best. Making it a competition between you and their work is a risky business.

Over the next few days think about how you handle yourself when dealing with your partner. You are the only person you can truly control. Think about what you truly want. If you want to change the relationship you have with your partner for the better then simply waiting for them to change is unlikely to give you the result you want. To change things for the better you have to make the decision to change the one person in your power. That is YOU.

Think about the way in which you speak, when you choose to bring things up and how you couch things. Pouncing on your partner as soon as they come in tired and irritable from work is probably not the most productive time to talk about how unreasonable you think they are, at least not if you want them to truly listen to you. Run the conversation in your head and plan to do it differently. As a general rule of thumb make a distinction between how you feel about them and their behaviour. “I love you very much but I find ------ really difficult.” Keep calm and try not to see it as a point scoring exercise.

Making a change to your approach can make a difference over time. Be realistic, if your partnership has been rocky for an extended period of time it can take time for a new strategy to work.

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When Nagging Gets In The Way

2008-05-26T15:00:00.020-07:00

It is well known that the strength of people working effectively together is qualitatively stronger than that of the individuals of that team working in isolation. The success of the Corporate Leader is dependent on how well he or she can maximize the potential of those they lead. Any corporate leader who is keen to develop strategies for ongoing growth and success needs to enable their staff not only as individuals but as members of a variety of teams.

Whilst there is a generic core of team member skills and behaviours each team will require something different of its members according to its function and stage of development. Teaching staff to be flexible to those needs and sensitive to their own needs, and those of their team members, will pay huge dividends in the long run. It is these principles which should be at the heart of Corporate Team Building Activities.

Successful corporate team building requires time, energy and skill. Great corporate teams do sometimes happen as if by chance, yet simply relying on serendipity can mean loosing out on the tremendous benefits of having a structured and consistent approach to corporate team building.

There are many parallels in the sporting world. Each team uses the defined skills and expertise of the individual required to be a great defender, goal scorer or goal keeper, yet it also takes a great deal of care to ensure that the individuals work well together, understanding how best to support the others to ensure they gain the optimum success. Players will adapt their play according to the game, the opponent and the weather and pitch conditions and know how this affects not only their own game but that of their team mates.

There are some simple principles which underpin effective corporate team building activities. These activities work at a number of different levels:

The team must understand and buy into the strategic vision and purpose for its existence. When people believe what they do has a value and understand how their contribution will make a difference, levels of motivation and commitment rise significantly.

Individuals within a team need to understand what success will look like. To ensure that everyone is pulling in the same direction corporate team building activities should ensure that there is a shared definition of success.

Corporate team building activities should help individuals recognise their personal strengths and what they can bring to the team. They need to be aware of their limitations and create strategies for on going development.

Corporate team building activities should help individuals develop a clear understanding of the strengths of others within their team and how each person’s skills and experience can be used to the teams best advantage.

Corporate Team Building Activities which create an understanding how different personality types complement the team can be incredibly helpful. Those who are “big chunk” people who see the big picture and operate at a strategic level are often irritated by the “small chunk” people who need to see all the detail before they can make a decision. The feelings are often mutual and this can set up tensions. In reality most teams need both types of people. Understanding the needs of one another and their relative value to the group can help enormously. Ideas and issues can be presented so they fulfil the needs of everyone within the team. There are many different models for identifying the different personality types what is important is that the team understands the need for variety of approach and knows how best to serve their own needs and that of their team members.

All teams benefit from their members understanding how their attitudes, behaviours and baggage impact on their colleagues and on the team’s potential success. Learning the rules of good team behaviour and how to operate together is at the heart of team’s ongoing success.

Corporate Team building activities should help the group to create a common language where everyone not only understands the vocabulary but also the sub text. A shared understanding what “excellent” performance looks sounds and feels like raises expectations and standards for all concerned.

Activities should set out the parameters for team protocol. This will vary according to the needs of the purpose of the team. A team which is set up on a permanent basis is likely to have very different parameters to that which is set up for a defined short term project.

Parameters should include:

Define the purpose

Define the roles and responsibilities within the team

Define the decision making process

Define levels of delegated authority

Define the resources at the team’s disposal including people, budget, time etc

Define the appropriate team behaviours – day to day operation, monitoring and evaluation process, reporting and recording, managing expectations within the team and with others

Corporate Team Building Activities must be seen to add value. You can create even more leverage when you empower the people within the team to take responsibility for finding solutions. As A Corporate Leader you are reliant on the quality of your team as it is impossible to do everything yourself. At their best they make you look good, anything less and potential is being wasted. Is your programme of Corporate Team Building Activities serving your needs and the needs of your team? Perhaps it is time for a rethink.

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Indispensable People Are Far To Costly For your Organisation

2008-05-26T15:00:00.019-07:00

The “no one else can do it as well as I can” and the “It’s quicker to do it yourself” Schools of Management can work very well in the short term but have significant consequences over time. Consequences for the individual who tries to manage the impossible and ends up with stress and ultimately burn out. Consequences for the organization, when there are no contingency plans for when the person has a heart attack, a breakdown or leaves the company.

Think about the people in your organization. Include yourself in this. How many of their roles could be covered easily if they were to suddenly disappear for a few weeks? Do you have a planned strategy which ensures that all tasks have at least two people who can comfortably undertake them if necessary.

How often does your organization spend money and time on recruiting people to posts and being disappointed with the outcome?

How much time, money and effort does your organization spend in recruiting middle and senior managers who then have to be taught your company culture and mission?

The two styles of management raise similar issues. Whenever a manager does too much themselves, it has implications for the ongoing development of individuals and the team. Those managers have little time left for strategic planning and managing their teams effectively as they are too busy at an operational level.

Consider how inexperienced members of staff learn best. Think about when you first learned to ride a bike. To start with you probably needed stabiliser wheels and the help of an adult in steering and staying upright. Once you felt more confident the adult took their hands away – hovered near to give moral and practical advice if needed. For a while you needed the extra help of stabilizer wheels, but ultimately you took control and responsibility for riding your bike. Confidence grew and you tackled greater challenges.

Ask yourself how much time you invest in developing your team. Many people I work with are quick to tell me that they would delegate but their staff are not yet ready. The paradox is that they will never be ready until they are given the chance.

You need to consider very carefully what underpins your style of management. Lack of time, fear of letting go, becoming redundant as younger and more able people come along, are common issues. Yet the real skill of being a leader and manager is in attracting and developing the very best people and maximizing their potential.

Learning through experience works particularly well when this is underpinned by good quality training, ongoing monitoring and constructive feedback to ensure that people know how to make continuous improvements. Effective delegation also offers people the opportunity to grow and develop. It is a great tool for succession training. It leads to a growth of expertise and confidence.

The best leaders can have confidence that their team will be as effective when they are out of the office as when they are there and that their legacy will continue when they leave – ideally to sun themselves on a beach in Hawaii.

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Solid Wood Cabinets- Alternative Materials That are Being Used

2008-05-26T15:00:00.018-07:00

Unless you are planning a big budget for your kitchen, solid wood cabinets are most likely not an option. For new homeowners, or people that have never bought kitchen cabinets before, it is not uncommon to get a surprised reaction when they hear that there are very few cabinet makers that use solid wood for the entire cabinet (unless you are having custom cabinets built and specifying that they use solid wood).

There are several reasons why solid wood is not used for the cabinet box anymore, but the biggest reason being that it is just too expensive. To use solid wood for the entire cabinet would put them out of the price range of just about 90% of consumers. The other reason being that there are several engineered products that are just as strong, but can be 1/2-2/3 the cost of real wood. Ofcourse, not all engineered products offer the same strength and durability, so it is important to scrutinize the materials used to manufacture the cabinets. The majority of cabinet manufacturers are still using solid wood for the face frames and doors (the most exposed parts of the cabinet), but here are some of the common materials you will find that are being used for the cabinet box.

Particleboard

Particleboard is made of exactly what is sounds like... wood particles. This usually consists of wood chips layered and pressed together using a resin or glue to hold it together. Since it is made up of smaller chips, it doesn't offer the same strength when it comes to holding screws and nails. Screws and nail holds will have a tendency to weaken over time, even splintering apart. Particleboard is also prone to moisture damage if not protected properly.

Fiberboard

Think of fiberboard as an extra thick and more dense cardboard. It is actually made up of wood fibers tightly pressed together and held together by a wood epoxy or glue mixture. While a thick fiberboard can be a tough material, it is highly susceptible to moisture. This usually results in swelling or warping of the material, and it will retain the water. Fiberboard will also require a veneer or paper with a wood pattern to finish it off, which can have a tendency to peel away.

MDF

MDF or Medium Density Fiberboard is a heavy dense material. It is a combination of wood chips, fibers, and resin or epoxy which makes for a strong material. The biggest drawback to MDF is splintering or chipping. If thick enough, it can hold as much weight as real wood, but it is will be affected by water or moisture.

Plywood

This is my preference when it comes to cabinet construction. Plywood is a series of thinly sliced layers of wood where the grain is alternated. The layers of wood are then glued and pressed together. Plywood offers the greatest strength because of the alternating grain patterns which helps dispurse the weight. Plywood is also less likely to be affected by moisture because it doesn't allow the water to penetrate into the bonding agent.

When it comes to overall strength and durability for your cabinets, it is highly recommended that you focus on cabinets that feature a solid plywood cabinet box. Not only will your cabinets last longer, but they will be less likely to be affected by the moisture associated with normal kitchen use.

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Karoshi: A Fate Worse Than Burnout... Seriously, You Need A Mentor!

2008-05-26T15:00:00.017-07:00

Before looking at how success mentoring can help you escape the rat race, what precisely does being a part of the rat race mean?

Before looking at the second part of my question, I thought I'd check out the phrase "the rat race" Google and when I did I found the following definitions:

* "A rat race is a term used for an endless, self-defeating or pointless pursuit. It conjures up the image of the futile efforts of a lab rat trying to escape whilst running around a maze or in a wheel."

* "A mad scramble or intense competitive struggle, such as in the business world."

* "An exhausting routine that leaves no time for relaxation."

For me the first definition is the best; the rat race is an "endless, self defeating pursuit," like a rat in a wheel. This definition of "the rat race" pretty succinctly describes what having an ordinary job while trying to gain some financial freedom is all about - running like crazy and "getting nowhere fast."

As an employee you will be paid a monthly salary and in most cases the amount you are paid is set by the employer and not by you. It is a simple trade: you swap your time for money each day in order to get your hands on the bare necessities of life and perhaps even the occasional luxury from time to time. If you want to increase your income, "all" you have to do is increase the number of hours you work.

The fact is that if you increase you working hours then you tend to have less free time for yourself and your family because following an exhausting routine that leaves no time for relaxation. Over the long term it is just not a sustainable nor an effective strategy. It leads to burnout, or a fate worse than burnout; anybody who has lived in Japan for any length of time, as I have, will be familiar with the Japanese word "Karoshi," which translates as "death from overwork."

Ouch!

Another way to increase your income in the job market could be to improve your productivity within your regular working hours. In other words you could seek to become more efficient, learn new skills and improve your ability to do your job, in short, to do more work in less time. But while such a strategy may secure a salary raise, what also tends to happen is that you will land yourself more work, additional responsibilities, or both.

You may indeed be promoted, and get an increase in salary, but then the process begins again and you may wonder whether you have really made progress or simply jumped inside a bigger wheel? Because your boss considers you to be an effective and reliable employee she might expect you to work longer and harder than ever, which is good from the point of view of earning some extra cash (unless your overtime is "voluntary work" as it often is in Japan); however, working harder and longer is far from good for your health, family and free time activities...

Actually, in my experience of corporate life here in Japan, where I have often had an opportunity to glimpse behind the corporate facade in my erstwhile capacity as a freelance English instructor, longer hours and higher productivity don't tend to go together... What happens is that many employees tend to work "long and slow" - going through the motions of work to keep up appearances, but freewheeling as much as possible to get through yet another long, tedious day...

So what is the answer I hear you ask? Well in my experience, the answer has to be that you take control of your future by breaking out of the rat race and getting off the wheel. Planning to get out of the rat race, and then taking the leap will be your first two steps on the path to financial freedom.

It may seem difficult, but it is not impossible if you seek to leverage your time so as to create income streams that are not limited by your employer or by the amount of time available to you in a single day.

The most effective way to grasp how to do this is to copy the habits of those successful people who have stepped out of the rat race and proceeded to create wealth in every area of life, both for their families and themselves.

The phrase we use to describe such people is "success mentors.They are men and women of character who have experienced difficulties similar to, or most likely worse than, your own and who have prevailed and are now happy and eager to show you how you too can achieve success on your own terms.

Any mentor worth his or her salt will tell you,

"if I can do it, so can you,"

and then give you the proof that will serve to feed your self-belief and build up your self-confidence so that you too can set out on the path to realize your dreams.

The reason is that the best mentors are "they that have come through much tribulation." Their testimony is that they have been tested and not found wanting. The tests they have undergone to achieve their successes are unique to each of them and give each of them a powerful facility to inspire.

Moreover, every one who is a mentor today was once mentored; truly, if you want to succeed you must find a mentor.

Do not underestimate the power of being mentored. My favourite example of outstanding success through excellent mentoring is Tiger Woods.

Success mentoring is therefore the most powerful single process to help and encourage or empower someone who has a dream, or who at least is seeking an alternative to the rat race, to get off the wheel of "just getting by" and begin to live life at an entirely higher level.

So if you haven't got at least one success mentor, go and find one today as you take your first steps off the never-ending wheel that is the rat race.

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Align Your Thoughts for Success

2008-05-26T15:00:00.016-07:00

Copyright (c) 2008 Weston Lyon

Success in life is not difficult or tricky. It's not luck either. Success can be summed up in ONE word: alignment.

For you to succeed, in any endeavor, you must learn to align 4 basic components of your life. The four components are:

1. Your thoughts

2. Your decisions

3. Your actions

4. Your awareness

Today, we'll discuss the first basic component: your thoughts.

Your thoughts

Your thoughts are the foundation of your success. Thoughts are a form of energy. Your thoughts can be categorized as either high energy or low energy.

High energy thoughts empower you, while low energy thoughts immobilize you.

In fact, as a litmus test, think of something GREAT in your life (kids, spouse, business, etc.). How does that thought make you feel? I bet you feel awesome thinking THAT thought. You may even feel like you can take on the world!

In contrast, think of something TERRIBLE in your life (finances, missed opportunities, etc.). How does that make you feel? Not so hot, huh? I bet it actually makes you feel a bit depressed or sad.

You see, your thoughts control your feelings. If you want to feel happy and successful, then think happy and successful thoughts.

Here are 3 ways to align your thoughts with success:

1. The people you hang around.

This may not be a solution you like, but it's 100% true. The people you associate with on a regular basis will determine your success.

Why? It's because the people you hang around on a regular basis are the people you share most of your thoughts with and vice versa.

Remember, thoughts are energy. And when you have friends that think with low energy, you get bombarded with that energy whether you like it or not.

Now, I'm not saying you have to abandon your friends. Not at all. Just realize you need to hang around successful people to become successful.

As the immortal knight in "Indiana Jones & the Last Crusade" says, "choose, but choose wisely."

2. The books you read & the CD's you listen to.

Reading and listening are two key components to becoming successful. The reason is simple...

The books you read and the CD's you listen to enable you to think.

Now, if you're reading/listening to high energy, thought provoking material you're on the right track. This kind of material will allow you think positive, high energy thoughts.

On the other hand, if you're always reading/listening to the news, the tabloids, or whatever else that sends off bad energy, you're playing with your future.

I'm not saying you have to give this stuff up. I just want you to realize that these materials are giving off low energy and the more you read/listen to them, the more low energy thoughts your mind produces.

Again, it's your choice, so choose wisely.

3. The events you attend

By attending events you set yourself up for a lot of high energy thoughts. Not only will you hear from great speakers at events that motivate, inspire, and empower you, you'll also be around a ton of people who have high energy.

This shouldn't be underestimated. The positive, high energy given off at live events is astonishing. Here's a small list of events I recommend you attend (for 3 different reasons):

a. Tony Robbins - if you're interested in taking control of you emotions and living a life of passion Tony is the guy to go and see.

b. Dr. Wayne Dyer - if you're interested in living a peaceful, happy, spiritually filled life (without religious undertones) than Dr. Dyer is a must see.

c. Dan Kennedy/Bill Glazier - if you're interested in growing a business and want to learn from the best marketers in the world, attend their events.

Success is a matter of opinion and choice. We can be successful in many different ways. Choose the way you want success in your life and attend one the above events - you won't regret it!!!

Now that you understand three of the ways to align your thoughts with success (your success) go take action and succeed!

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Weston Lyon is recognized as one of the nation's leading experts on finding time for what's important in life. To grab a FREE copy of Weston's e-book, 7 Strategies to Create Time in Your Crazy Busy Life, go to http://www.creatingspacebook.com

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Progressive Thinking In The 21st Century

2008-05-26T15:00:00.015-07:00

Progressive thinking founds new country

I am sure when this country was founded, even the most progressive thinking people did not vision automobiles and computers. They could not visualize the things we take for granted like telephones, television, electricity, running water in each home, airplanes eighteen wheel trucks hauling goods to supermarkets and much more. It’s only been a few years ago that the personal computer was simply a concept and the Internet could not have been foreseen as it is today. Looking back only fifty years one could not have given a realistic evaluation of many commonplace items in use today. Yet our grandchildren in the next fifty years, will experience a complete and through transformation.

Information and Technology is evolving faster than people can keep up. As one generation fades away the foundation of their technology accelerates knowledge well beyond even their comprehension. The proceeding generation uses the previous generation as a stair step or springboard to climb to even greater heights. The future provides what imagination makes available. It is within our minds where imagination springs forth and future technology flourishes and becomes reality experiences.

The information explosion we are now experiencing has far reaching consequences as it is dividing the population into segments. There is the very well informed who understand and use current technology and the not so informed who get by using current technology in a limited capacity. Then there is the many who can’t keep up with current technology at all. This growing separation in our society is causing some people to acquire great power while others simply can’t keep up and concede to the status quo.

A Society in duress - Can we keep up?

Even though there are various reasons for activating change, the foundation of each step on the path to better living was and is built on a firm belief in our system. It is a firm; deep-seated conviction in the belief that nothing is impossible for a free society that challenges possibilities and forges its’ own destiny. The discovery and challenge of flight brought about heights and speeds befitting the power of accomplishment. The invention and mass manufacturing of automobiles brought about a new network of highways to accommodate them. True, the challenge was immense but the possibility was so inviting that many visionaries dared rise to the occasion.

Leaping toward the stars

There was one barrier that was challenged over and over until it was finally overcome. The sound barrier proved to be an insurmountable challenge for hundreds of people yet, through belief and determination even it was overcome. Even the sky is no longer the limit because man has ventured into the heavens seeking answers to his origin. The undefeatable quest of man is an extremely powerful force that awakens the mind and hurls it to awe-inspiring heights. None of these nor thousands of other challenges could have been accomplished without strong team belief and dynamic effort. It takes belief in the project and joint team effort to accomplish the unreachable and set new, higher standards of accomplishment.

While the team has visions of the universe as being within its grasp, a more sobering account here on earth details the individual as floundering, why? Could it be that relationships, work ethic, morals, values, people have strayed from the belief in there own significance? A new generation has strayed from fundamental challenges and taken the easy road, the road to self-indulgence and self-satisfaction. They look for fast gain and effortless paths to wealth and happiness. Get-rich-quick paths are for delusional dreamers who and are not connected to reality. Their dream is impossible because the improbable has crept into their minds and clouded their rationale. In their mind, determination has given way to limitation and their mentality retreats to confusion and hopelessness in its self absorbed state.

Visions of reality spring from inquisitive minds

The many visions that give way to concepts of future realities are spurred by inquisitive minds, healthy minds, full of willingness and vitality. The seekers, visionaries, doers and shakers of this generation are on the road to penetrating the black void. All revolutionary techniques or discoveries that provided a basis for modern life are possible in infinity. Every future technology is only to be unraveled by some inquisitive mind. It is the dedicated seeker who brings dreams into reality. What is a discovery but an expression of its initiator? The producers of our present day technology may have been called “dreamers,” by many of their contemporaries but today it’s their technology that drives the wheels of a nation.

Anything is possible to a believer.

Anything is possible to the believer – if he/she is also a “doer”. For through belief comes faith and it is faith in oneself that motivates the mind into completion. If a person has no faith, no belief, then he/she is surly lost for without faith, and belief no opportunity is possible. No concept, idea or belief can become a driving cause that forges ahead without someone having faith in his/her possibilities.

Turn dreams into action

Nothing is concluded without action. A dream, wish, concept or idea is worthless without some form of action to bring it into an experience. Everything must be transformed from mental manna to material fiber before it can be experienced. In the spirit or mental realm, there is only undiscovered theory where reality is born. Reality cannot be real without being experienced by a viable, perceptive source. It is through perception that all things become qualified as useful.

Watching the world go by

Setting in a rocking chair conjuring scenes of future greatness may be enjoyable and relaxing, but it will never get the job done. It takes cold, hard-organized effort to create results. What we seek is what we get.

Happy Trails

Donald Yates, author, Former Director of Leadership and Development for First Baptist Church of Crossville, and Business Development coordinator for Imperial Research , is now retired but continues to engage life through self discovery.

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Training Your Mind To Become An Effective Success Maker

2008-05-26T15:00:00.014-07:00

Unknown to most people, your mind is the key success maker when you do experience that occasional sweet taste of success throughout various junctures of your life. The mind in this case, as a success maker, has got little to do with how high your intelligence is, but rather, more on how you are able to make use of the full potential of your mind to achieve success. In this respect, training your mind to become an effective success maker is very important as it will allow you to develop yourself to the fullest potential in whatever you do, and ultimately achieve success in life.

The first step to training your mind as an effective success maker would be for you to live a life of purpose each day. How many times have you woken up not knowing what to do for the rest of the day? Make the break, its time to change. Rather than be aimless, start off by making a list on what you want to accomplish by the end of each day. This can take the form of anything ranging from your work matters to your family. In doing so, you will give your mind greater focus while subconsciously; allow your mind to move you closer to your goals during the various stages of the day.

Strengthening your focus as you go about your daily objectives is equally important. You would achieve close to nothing should you choose to have goals but let yourself get distracted by other things that come and go each day. Prioritize and be focused on what exactly you want to achieve. Remember, it is not only about a goal, it is also about the most specific detail which you would need to pay attention to which is the key for your mind to develop into an effective success maker.

Should things go awry from time to time, it is also important for you to develop a positive mindset and self-response. Typical for most people out there is to use self-apprehension as a means of response. Quit telling yourself things like “Why did this happen”, questions where there is the possibility of a negative answer. Instead ask yourself forward-looking questions that can only generate positive responses. A good example of this would be “What are the learning points from this’. Remember, there is no point in crying over spilt milk, what’s more important is looking ahead.

Last of all surround yourselves with people with a positive outlook. Ideas tend to be given more space to generate and flourish in a positive environment. Thus, fill your life with all the positive energy surrounding you. This will tend to prevent you from being exposed to negativity which would have the ability to have an impact on your subconscious. By staying positive, thinking positive and being in contact with things positive, you open your way to greater success.

Success is not something that requires you to have astronomical intelligence to achieve. All it requires is mere training of your mind. Doing so will allow your mind to work for you and be an effective success maker

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A New Way of Thinking

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When you realize that the Law of Attraction can provide you the life that you have always dreamed of, you have to begin to think about what it is that you have to do in order for the Law of Attraction to work in your favor. You have always used the Law of Attraction but not intentionally and now you have a brand new slate to create the life that you want by intentional creation.

Begin by thinking about what you would like to do with your life. Sure, you want great health, wonderful relationship, loads of money, and a "to die for" career. But let's assume for a moment that you already have all of that. What would you do with your life if you had it all? What is the one (or several) thing(s) you would do with your time? When you figure this out, you have found your purpose. Your purpose doesn't have to be helping others twenty-four/seven in order to qualify as a purpose. Your purpose is defined by 'what you could do all day long and then continue doing the next day with the same enthusiasm and joy. Find your purpose (of what makes you happy) and that is a good place to begin attaining the life that you so deserve and desire.

If you're not sure of the purpose then make that your visualization and ask the Universe for your purpose and just see that it comes to you in an idea or throughout the day. The Universe will bring you the answer if you really want it and focus on the joy it will bring you to have your purpose that will fill the empty space you might be feeling.

Once you have found your purpose it gets easier. Knowing what you want is just as important as visualizing on it. Begin to visualize with your purpose in mind. See that all aspects of your life are clearly wonderful because of this purpose. See that your life is steady and wonderfully easy while you are working toward your purpose.

Break down any negative repetitive patterns you may have that could be keeping you from the focus of your purpose. If you have any negative mental patterns, replace them with positive affirmations that will encourage and inspire you. Take on a whole new way of thinking about your life and you. Begin to see what a wonderful exciting being you are and always have been. Listen to your inner self and realize that your inner self is perfect and your physical self can be directed from the inner self. Your inner self is what will give you the direction as to which way to head with your newly discovered purpose.

Take on a whole new life and a whole new way of thinking as you begin to apply the Law of Attraction intentionally. Each moment is a new moment to create a new you. Don’t waste any more time investing in the old you, the one with all the repetitive patterns that hold you back. Invest your time in the new person and the new life you are creating for yourself. It is well worth it.

Beth and Lee McCain are instructors and lecturers in applying the Law of Attraction to your life to attain whatever you desire. They have a great radio show on Youtube that is both entertaining as well as informative on the subject of the Law of Attraction. For more information about Beth and Lee products and services, please visit: Beth and Lee McCain Law of Attraction Web Site

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How you can Help World Conditions with the Law of Attraction

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All through history, the world has experienced many changes, some good and some bad. Our current world today is so full of different perceptions and opinions that we are in a world of ever changing religion, politics, and culture, each one believing that they have the right answer and each one believing they have the only answer.

There is not just one answer to a question; there are many answers to a question that work just as well as the next. By being such a diverse world, we can benefit from listening to all the different perspectives and come up with something that could benefit the world in general. Is it possible for this to happen? I would like to think so but with so much contrast about so many different things the change would need to happen on a scale of mass consciousness.

So is there anything that we can do with the Law of Attraction to help the world condition being just one person? There are three answers to that question: Yes, yes, and yes.

Create a separate visualization for the world in general. What world would you like to see and be a part of? Maybe countries that help one another through catastrophes, help the hungry and the sick, and help the poverty stricken. When you visualize the world as a whole, make sure that you don't focus on the lack of what is happening. When focusing on the pain and desperation of catastrophe, you will most certainly begin to attract just that.

When you focus on what you would like the world to be (sending food for the people who have lost homes, medical supplies for the sick, and money to sponsor a poverty stricken village) and you visualize the joy and relief of the people who have been helped, then you will begin to see a difference from within your perspective.

As each one of us focuses on the joy and happiness of helping our fellow human beings through generosity and compassion we will in fact change the world. Think about how wonderful if you and your friends who practice the Law of Attraction got together and created a wonderful group visualization. The more you focus and see only the positive within the world, the more your own world and the whole world would benefit.

We can't ignore what is going on around us but we can begin to become non reactive to what we see with our eyes and change our perception from pity and fear to help and compassion. By giving focus to the solution of world hunger, war, illness we will be doing so much more for this physical world that we live in.

Donate money out of compassion to help mankind, but not from a space of feeling that you have to help because you have guilt or shame that this has happened to someone. Leave the guilt and shame behind and focus on the positive aspect of what your money will do for the people of the world who need it. And thank the Universe for the ability to be able to help.

Beth and Lee McCain are instructors and lecturers in applying the Law of Attraction to your life to attain whatever you desire. They have a great radio show on Youtube that is both entertaining as well as informative on the subject of the Law of Attraction. For more information about Beth and Lee products and services, please visit: Beth and Lee McCain Law of Attraction Web Site

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Law Of Gratitude Breaking From Poverty

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How does one break from the horrors of penury? It is through gratitude that one changes his or her energy. Two types of energy that we experience are negative and positive energy. Both types determine what you manifest in your life. The number one thing that one has stop thinking is, that it is ok to be poor. There is nothing noble about being poor. Poverty attracts thievery, deception, crookedness and a host of other negative actions. Center yourself around prosperity, no matter what your current reality may be. Change the way you think, and it will change the way you live. The way you can do this is by flooding your mind with positive affirmations through motivational tapes, inspirational reading and applying it to you everyday living. Things will begin to change for the better, but one must be constant about it.

The law of Gratitude is positive energy that is given eventually returns with rewards. The Law of Gratitude is that sense of satisfaction in knowing that energy, which has been given, receives its certain reward according to its nature. Energy that is given moves out on that curved and unequal line, and when extended far enough, can only return to its source bearing gifts. Keep in mind that there is no magic button you can press and woo-la everything is wonderful. It does not work in that sense. However, one will see small changes from day one because that energy has changed from negative to positive. If you need more money, love, and friendship in your life, then learn to give it. Opportunity is in every problem you are experiencing Have you notice how Jesus is always giving thanks before he prays? “Thank you father for thy hear-est me.” This is true faith in believing the unseen. Make a point every morning to give thanks and to be grateful for what you already have. Be grateful for your bills, for they are blessings that you have already received. Think about it.

One must apply this law to his or her business life as well. Be grateful if you did not get that job, it may have been the wrong one on down the line. Be grateful for everything that is happening to you because it is suppose to happen. You are being prepared for success. One can not experience success with a cluttered mind. I was told once in my life, it is better to get my shit together than to gather my shit up! I had to think about that one real hard, but it made a difference in my life. Prosperity is all around you, but you must be willing to receive it. Have all the things you desire through your creator, he will provide them for you. He can only do for you what he can do through you.

As you center yourself around prosperity, all negative things will just fall away. Your desires will change. One will no longer want to do the same thing that they have done in the past.

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Using The Power Of Your Mind To Develop A Financial Success System

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An effective, well-oiled financial success system is something most people would dream of in their entire life. Like a cash cow, it would keep them rich for many years to come. Yet, how many of us can truly understand that the source of developing such a system lies within ourselves? The fact is that the key to developing a financial success system lies within our mind, or more specifically, the subconscious mind. If you ever wanted to strike it rich, using the power of your mind to develop a financial success system would be something that would come useful to you in the long run.

For starters, it is important to develop a positive attitude towards the concepts of money and wealth. Many people tend to view money and material wealth on negative terms. After all, how many times have you heard parents preaching the aged old saying “money is the root of all evil” to their young ones? However, to have such an attitude would imbue your subconscious with negative affirmations that money is indeed evil. Granted that the subconscious mind can influence the conscious mind, which in turn determines our actions, holding such an unfavorable view of money would result in it never coming to us. We die poor. As such, we should adopt a more positive approach towards money, recognizing that it is only with money that we are able to fund various creations that are ultimately beneficial to us. Doing so would allow our subconscious to act in the reverse manner of what we mentioned earlier. Our subconscious mind would condition our conscious mind, and thus, our actions to attract money. We enjoy abundance in this result through the use of our mind’s power.

In addition, it is also important to have clear targets on your financial goals. Such goals should be clear, precise and down to the very detail. Precise goals provide your subconscious with greater focus, preventing you from being distracted by any obstacles that may happen to come between you and your financial goals. This is important as your subconscious mind needs the necessary positive affirmations and undivided attention from you in order for it to work its magic on your conscious mind and the actions you take.

Finally, it would be a good idea to be surrounded by positive-minded people who have the same goals in you. Without the ability to discern, the subconscious mind is very vulnerable to negative affirmations which might be spread to you by people who are constantly living with negative affirmations in their minds. Comparatively, positive people who have the same goals contribute to positive affirmations within your subconscious. This would in turn allow your subconscious mind to guide your conscious mind in positive ways, ultimately resulting in you taking the right action for financial success.

The key to an effective financial success system lies within the power of your mind. Ability to influence your subconscious mind in positive ways through positive attitudes, goals and people will ultimately allow you to realize your all financial goals in life.

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